Monday, July 8, 2019

It's the Thought That Counts… Very. Very. Literally.

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

What you put out is what you get back…
So if what you think you’re putting out is not what you’re getting back,
then you’re not putting out what you think you’re putting out.


If you have thoughts of eating a banana, the result will not be you jumping off a cliff.

If you think about jumping off a cliff, the result will not be you eating a banana.

But if you think enough about either eating a banana or jumping off a cliff, and you think it with enough emotional drive, you will sooner or later experience the direct result of what you’d been thinking: you will eat a banana or jump off a cliff, respectively.

And, if you think enough about both eating a banana and jumping off a cliff, well, you may end up jumping off a cliff while eating a banana.

The Thought

This concept may sound obvious to the point of silliness when described in this way.

But a great many people live every day of their lives as if it weren’t so; as if their thoughts only matter when it’s convenient to them for their thoughts to matter.

It truly is “the thought that counts” because thought always precedes action.

Thought creates in spirit prior to physical manifestation. When fed enough energy, spiritual form manifests as physical form.

Thoughts matter because matter is physicalized thought.

This is especially true of subconscious thought. The band will play on regardless of whether or not the conductor is present—it’s just that, when he’s not, the result is a cacophony rather than a symphony.


Consider the following metaphorical example of what so many people experience in all aspects of life, time and time again, in which regardless of how much physical effort they put in they just cannot accomplish what they’d set out to accomplish…

Suppose you’re looking for a relationship. You take actions such as connecting with people on social media and dating websites, regularly attending social events and getting involved in multiple recreational clubs, improving your dress and putting your charm on, and so forth.

Five years later, you’re at home depressed and despairing because you’d become far more active but, in five whole years, never had a single date.

Surely, action is not your problem. Indeed, if thought had no bearing on action, you should be doing just dandy.

But it’s the thought that counts, and you never wanted to face your beliefs—which are created by and then drive the way you think—that “Oral hygiene isn’t that big of a deal.”

Your bad breath is a repellent, and the rot on your teeth looks awful. You know it’s a problem, but your fear of going to the dentist, which you conveniently cover up with the “Oral hygiene isn’t that big of a deal” belief, had sealed your fate before you’d even begun.

First, Change the Cause

The physical world is all about appearances; the physical world is merely an effect.

Everything that happens physically is an effect, or a result/consequence of causal thoughts.

It’s very easy to get caught up in the world of things and believe that if we want different results then we must simply do more of what we’re already doing or do something different.

But since our thoughts precede everything, since thoughts are the cause of the physical, we must necessarily think differently to receive different effects in the physical.

Quite often this means that we have to address subconscious beliefs, fears, and repressed emotions and traumas. All of these things fuel the thoughts we have, usually for the worse.

You See As You Be

You must also be mindful that the range you perceive of the overall spectrum of life potentials, possibilities, and in-the-moment happenings is limited to your way of thinking.

Due to the Law of Free Will, it is not given to you to see what is outside of your range of beliefs (unless deemed necessary and/or appropriate due to some other higher, soul choice).

So, for example, you could be struggling to do a certain “thing” and repeatedly have crappy results. It doesn’t matter whether it’s something small that you tried a few times in one day and gave up or it’s something significant that has stretched out over the course of years or decades and you keep trying but keep crashing. The point is that your efforts forever go to pot.

This is due to what you’re thinking consciously and, mostly, subconsciously. If you would see and remove the offending patterns, you would most assuredly see positive results.

Out of the blue you’d get an a-ha! moment. Or suddenly a book that describes a viable solution would come into your life. Or you’d unexpectedly meet a random person at the bus stop who knows a guy, who knows a guy, who knows a guy, who knows this other guy’s cousin, who could help you resolve your issue. Or maybe you’d just give up altogether because that “thing” simply wouldn’t resonate with you since it had been driven by “foreign” ideas.

“When the student is ready, the teacher appears.”

In this case, “When the mind is open, the ideal path appears.”

The End… Or Is It?

All I’ve addressed so far has been about this life, about living in a human body.

Obviously, this is crucial information because, well, life tends toward being flat-out sucky when we neither give our thoughts their due attention nor make any healing changes.

But what of thinking in the afterlife?

Before, after, and regardless of your body is your mind. Your body is dependent upon your mind, but your mind is not dependent upon your body.

Every day of your life, you have thoughts, thoughts, and more thoughts, most of which you have little if any power over as they play through your head and innumerable of which you seek to avoid by means of one coping mechanism or five others.

What do you suppose will happen when your body dies?

What do you suppose will happen when you no longer have a physical experience to distract your attention with, but only your mind’s raucous thought-causes that you’d never addressed while embodied?

Will you even know that your physical experience has ended, considering that all of your thoughts, and thus all your perceptions, are attachments to a physical body in a physical experience?

Avoiding your inconvenient and uncomfortable thoughts now may seem like a great idea, but when these thoughts are all you’ve got…

Sounds like hell, to me.

And what if your faith in religion and its “auto-save” feature ends up being a mistaken acceptance of one of the greatest lies ever told?

The importance of this issue cannot be overstated.

It truly is the thought that counts.

Friday, June 14, 2019

An Evidence-Free yet Indisputable Case for Intelligent Life Beyond Earth

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

With the way people reject the suggestion that intelligent life may exist in locations beyond Earth, one might be led to wonder whether or not there is intelligent life on Earth itself…

Denial Is Unreasonable

To conclude that intelligent ET life is nonexistent, one mustn’t have put adequate thought into their analysis.

If one is as I used to be, a parroter of whatever I believed my peers and “authority” would grant approval for, then there isn’t much of any thought at all.

Of those who do think further, these often the more scientific types, the tendency is toward being so dependent on “authority” and “approved means” to tell them “what we know” while perceiving this information to be “fact” and “truth” that they’ve no mind left for what lies outside of conventional research and assumption.

The purpose of this writing is to look at a variety of concepts that, although they certainly aren’t evidence—and much less proof—of intelligent ET life, make a very strong case as to why such life could most certainly exist and we wouldn’t have a clue.

These ideas shatter any imagined validity in denial because denial assumes that all, or at least a satisfactory number of, avenues have been examined, but this is not the case.

Be aware that this is not a conspiracy-informed discussion. It could be described as an exposition on open-minded thinking and inquiry, and the shortsightedness that arises without them.

Similarly Dissimilar

Even if we unwisely assume that what “authority” tells us is all true and they really know no more than they tell us, so what?

How many millions of years has sentient life been on this planet and yet we, the most intelligent of creatures, have hardly been to the moon?

Is it really that implausible for even one or ten or one thousand other planets in this universe of unspeakable magnitude to have intelligent life of a similar or lesser status?

Life could even be the rule rather than the exception—we can’t see or travel to them, so why would we think that they should automatically be able to see and travel to us?

As for science saying that we’ve been sending signals out into deep space but haven’t received anything in return, again, so what?

Is anyone actually receiving them? Are any receivers of these signals not really receivers because, although intelligent, they don’t yet have the technology to receive and reply? Must the receivers of these signals necessarily respond?

Why does ET life have to behave exactly as we assume it should behave?

We Wouldn’t Know Unless We Knew, Right?

Of course, this less-than-or-equal-to status ignores the human- and Earth-centric arrogance of the required belief that no one is greater. (Even if it were true that no one is greater, we don’t know that no one is greater, and so the arrogance still stands.)

Since arrogance and ignorance go hand-in-hand, if we don’t want to be ignorant or arrogant, we must be open to the possibility that there is intelligent life elsewhere and that some is less advanced, some is equally advanced, and some is more advanced—potentially advanced enough that we couldn’t even see it if it were here.

Consider 3 categories of orientation of advanced, intelligent ET beings (excluding any mixing):
  1. Neutral
  2. Negative
  3. Positive
These beings have no agenda other than pure observation. As such, they would not interact with us or allow themselves to be seen.

If they were here, we wouldn’t know unless we knew, right?

There are two general ways of interaction with negative beings: they would try to control and/or destroy us either overtly or covertly.

Alhough negative ETs might initially observe us from a distance, the use of overt force, such as UFOs flying around blowing shit to smithereens and reptilians corralling humans in chains, isn’t at all apparent, so, potentially, since negative beings can never seem to keep themselves from meddling in others’ affairs, they could be here controlling us covertly.

We wouldn’t know unless we knew, right?

There are two general ways that interaction with positive beings could take place: overtly or covertly.

Looking at the world’s state of affairs, what peace-desiring beings would want to fly into Earthly airspace? Even if they had reached the ground without being obliterated by missiles in midair, they would probably be quickly abducted by government officials and/or swiftly killed (literally or figuratively) because that’s what happens to everyone who lives and speaks of higher truth on this planet. So, if any such positive ET beings had any inkling of the danger of being here, they would not likely wish to make themselves known overtly. Furthermore, suddenly showing up by the hundreds, thousands, or even millions would scare the hell out of people, and that’s not peace-extending at all.

This leaves us to covert behavior: positive and merely observing, or positive and actually helping us in some way.

We wouldn’t know unless we knew, right?

Otherwise, if a given race of ETs were technologically equal or even a good deal more advanced than us, what if, say, they lived halfway across the galaxy or in a different galaxy altogether. How long would it take them to get here, if it were possible for them, even at light speed? (The Milky Way is 100,000 light years across, by the way.) Or, of all the infinite places they could go, what’s to say they would necessarily come anywhere near here?

It’s so easy to say, “Science says…” or, “The New York Times reported that…” but who actually knows?

A person may well not even know that there are termites eating away at his or her own house until their foot unexpectedly falls through the floor, and yet somehow we know that there’s no one living on—or in—any far-flung celestial object? With such the lack of attention we give them, there could be people living deep inside the Earth's crust or the moon and we wouldn’t even be aware.

We wouldn’t know unless we knew, right?

Keeping It Simple

In writing this, I admit that I’m skipping over a lot.

I’ve personally seen multiple UFOs, two of them so close I could almost touch them. I’m ignoring my own intuition and the self-knowledge that has come to me through QHHT (Quantum Healing Hypnotherapy) and Akashic Reading sessions. I’m making no suggestion of things I've found through 15+ years of conspiracy research. I'm bypassing scriptural references to ET races and all the spiritual (and other) information available about them. I’m avoiding the fact that, of the many thousands of worldwide sightings, abductions, and video recordings of UFOs over the decades, surely, at least one must be legit. I’m paying no heed to the half-assed, limited hangout, partial disclosure that’s suddenly burst into the mainstream even as reports and studies continue to come out saying that we’re most likely alone. I’m setting aside all the obvious marks (structures, artifacts, etc.) of other civilizations that have been left all over our world (and the Moon and Mars) and for which we have “no” explanation that necessarily point to unknown civilizations with advanced technology, potentially or necessarily of ET origin.

But do you know where skipping all that stuff puts me? Right here. Offering a simple case for intelligent ET life that, by pointing out a lack of evidence, cannot be thrown away as nonsense.

How adamant have people been about there being no ET life? How negative have people been toward those who believe in intelligent life beyond Earth? How closed-minded have people been about something that they cannot come even remotely close to proving false?

People have been so focused on what they apparently “know” that they've steamrolled right over everything they don't.

To Be Intelligent, One Must First Admit Ignorance

Arrogance says, “I know,” but in doing so it can’t help but admit to its own ignorance—the very thing arrogance is used as a shield from.

Can other places in this universe of unspeakable magnitude potentially have intelligent life, whether less, equally, or more advanced than us?

Of course.

Because, from an openly ignorant viewpoint, an absence of data isn’t proof of anything other than an absence of data!

We wouldn’t know unless we knew, right?

Thursday, June 6, 2019

There's Nothing Left To Learn In the Old World

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

The Old World is dying.

You may not think it because the Old World has so much momentum and, to many, a siren-song-attractive voice, but dying it is.

It’s for this reason that there’s nothing left to learn in the Old World.

A New World is being born, and the ways of the Old are becoming increasingly dysfunctional.

All the while, to say that there’s nothing left to learn in the Old World is not to say that there’s nothing left to learn from the Old World.

The Old must be let go of, but the New can only come as a consequence of learning from our errors, or that which has continually brought us more pain and suffering. We have to learn from the past so that we can release it and move into the future.

The Dead-End of Cancer Research

To explain what I mean, let’s consider cancer as an example.

The Old World perspective has the following focal point:

Here is a problem. How do we manage it?

Many people may believe that the medical establishment is attempting to find a cure for cancer, but this is not so since the basis on which the research is being done—which is subconscious to the vast majority of people—is inconsistent with a cure being available.

The way our collective lives unfold is nothing more than a mirror of what lies within us collectively.

Here in the US, when a person gets cancer they’re more or less forced to take any or all of three treatment options: radiation, surgery, and/or chemotherapy—all of which are damaging to the body and put cancer patients through a fantastical amount of pain and suffering before they experience a lull in cancerous activity usually only to have their cancer flare up and kill them.

So few people understand that the reason these three options are the only options is because as a collective we firmly believe that the medical establishment is doing all they can to seek a cure while using the best methods currently available. In a way people are horribly mistaken in this belief, but they’re also quite right in the sense that we’ve been pouring billions of dollars into cancer research seeking a cure.

Seeking. (And often, in the epitome of dead-end duality, fighting for a cure.)

This logic may sound so ridiculous because one must seek to find, but you must understand: The currently accepted view by the collective, if unconscious, is that cancer is here to stay. This means that cure-seeking is here to stay.

Remember the overarching viewpoint: Here is a problem. How do we manage it?

Our focus is not oriented toward solutions but merely management, and so there has to be another underlying assumption, and belief, that a solution may either never be found or is out in the future somewhere, maybe in the year 2046 or 2252.

So, if we “know” that cancer is here to stay, then how could we ever arrive at a cure?

A New View

We now need to shift our viewpoint:

Here is a problem. How do we prevent it from arising at all?

Instead of keeping on with potentially endless cancer research, which at this point is typically nothing more than a broken way of “looking forward,” we have to look backwards.

The fact of the matter is, we already know plenty about cancer and it’s hardly taken us anywhere. What we need to do now is say, “Hey, cancer never existed, or perhaps only very rarely at best, until the modern day. What happened?”

Well, we started…
  • spraying heavy metals in our skies,
  • including toxic substances in our cleaning products,
  • spraying our crops with pesticides, herbicides, and fungicides,
  • loading our vaccines with heavy metals and other toxic substances,
  • genetically modifying our food,
  • speed-growing cattle with poor diets and excess hormones,
  • IV-dripping cancer patients with a carcinogenic substance,
  • plentifully eating foods that contain little to no nutritional value,
  • bogging our bodies down with refined sugar,
  • allowing manufacturers do dump their toxic waste right into rivers,
  • absorbing 5G radiation from cell towers and other electronic devices,
  • and on and on.
You see, there’s really no need to do any further research on cancer, at least not in the Old World way so much of the research is currently done.

We might look into how a given substance is harming the body. For example, knowing that Monsanto’s Roundup is causing cancer is vital in order to get rid of both the product and the psychopathic company and to possibly find a means by which to neutralize the toxic substance glyphosate.

In large part, however, resolution is a matter of common sense: Quit it with all the toxicity! No one has ever polluted themselves and their world like we have, and no one has ever been so near to self-extinction.

When the Wright brothers were working out how to build a functional means of air travel, they never said, “Errmm… attempting to fly this particular model is clearly going to end badly, but let’s ride it off of that there cliff and pretend to fly before we crash and burn in the boulder field below. At least we can be remembered for going out trying.”

How incredibly foolish are we to see that nearly everything we do is destroying us and yet act either like it’s not actually that bad or like, “Well, it’s the best we could do.” Really? …Really!?

And I’m well aware that there are many alternative treatments to cancer that have been heavily suppressed since they actually work, don’t cause massive amounts of pain, suffering, fear, and death, and would put Big Pharma out of business in a hurry if they became known to the general public.

As critical as it is that these treatment alternatives become mainstream, it doesn’t in any way lessen the importance of what I said just a moment ago. Whether treatment is quick and pain-free or slow and agonizing, we’re all still living in a world where cancer-causing agents are bountiful.

To focus primarily on how cancer functions or how to keep it in check completely ignores the innumerable causes of cancer. Would these causes be addressed appropriately, cancer research would need only be done to the extent that cancer patients receive healing and that various methods be found to counteract any remaining cancer-causing threats (for example, plastic molecules that stick in the body “forever”).

Cancer could then become completely irrelevant to humanity.

Cancer is not a fact of life—it’s what we get for thoroughly ignoring the facts of life.


Existence is whole.

What this means is that there is no problem without a solution. Both arise together, although in the duality-minded, time-based form of experience they may seem to be separate, or a given solution may seem to not exist at all.

The Old World is dying, but it is a world of problems. We now have to accept these problems, which are the unresolved consequences of our past actions, as being in the domain of wholeness so that we can acquire their solutions and move on.

In the New World such problems don’t exist. The solutions aren’t of the New World either but are the steps we must necessarily take toward it.

It is our linking of problem to solution that releases us from the Old, dualistic view and lifestyle, reveals to us the non-dualistic nature of existence, and ushers us right into the New World.

Thursday, May 30, 2019

Of Truth and Belief, Perception and Reality

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

There is something in us that inherently recognizes truth.


Granted, truth is relative.

Firstly, truth is whatever we imagine it to be.

Life provides us with experience, we create beliefs of “what is true” about this experience, and then, because belief acts as a filter of perception, life appears to us to continually validate our beliefs as correct.

Each one of us carries a different set of ideas as to “what is true,” and so each one of us perceives life differently.

We carry these beliefs of perceived truth until we choose to let go of them.

Secondly, there are always higher truths.

For instance, at the urging of Big Advertising, Big Meat, and a few other Big Idiots, the majority of people in the US (and I’m sure elsewhere) eat copious amounts of meat and ingest high levels of protein-laden snacks and supplements. These people are enchanted by the belief—i.e.: the imagined truth—that, “I need a lot of protein to support my well-being.”

Sadly, we’ve been seriously misinformed and brainwashed. There’s no research to support the beneficial claims of high-protein (especially animal protein) diets. Would people actually do the research and pay closer attention to their bodies, they would see how high-protein diets are dramatically raising their risk of numerous diseases and adversely affecting their mental and emotional states. With a little effort, people would see the higher truth that, “A lot of protein does not support my well-being.”

Life is an onward and upward evolution. We need the truths of today to serve us today, for better or for worse, yet we must let go of these truths in order to reach an improved tomorrow.

All the While...

Despite the fact that our beliefs filter from our conscious awareness what is contrary to them, we still have some level of awareness of when something is more true or less true than what we already believe.

I don’t mean that if someone came to us and poured out all the secrets of the universe that we’d suddenly see all our contrary beliefs as false and the new concepts as the higher truths they are. This would be way too much, way too fast.

But we do recognize these 3 types of truths:
  1. truths that we’re ready for,
  2. truths that are one level up from the truths we currently hold, and
  3. truths that any of our senses make “obvious.”

Truths We Recognize, Type 1

We recognize truths that we’re ready for.

We’re ready for what we’re ready for, and when it arrives we accept it. We have nothing internal that causes resistance upon contact with it, so we quickly make it our own.

Imagine a work manager who treats his employees like slime but always becomes Mr. Friendly when customers are around.

The workers believe the guy deserves to be shot and, due to this belief, have made themselves particularly aware of all the nasty things he does. On the other hand, the customers who don’t know any better, who don’t have any beliefs saying that Mr. Friendly is a dickbrain, see Mr. Friendly’s amiability and create a belief to say that he’s a nice guy.

Easy-peasy is it for the customers to create a positive belief about the manager since they’ve nothing to resist such a belief, but very difficult would it be to change any of the workers’ minds that Mr. Friendly is naught but a sack of maggots.

Truths We Recognize, Type 2

We recognize truths that are one level up from the truths we currently hold.

Humans are slow-to-change, often stubborn creatures that when pushed too quickly to change, even when willing, tend to get overwhelmed easily. Sometimes significant changes happen very quickly and unexpectedly and everything works out fine, but most of the time quick shifts hurt us.

Life is well aware of this and so our movement onward and upward is usually made quite gradual.

Any next-level truth is relative to where we, as individuals, are in the present and where we’re meant to go next.

Some time ago I’d heard about a girl who was grossly overweight and had a terrible diet. She’d gone on a hiking trip and she got so sick of her condition that she flipped like an on/off light switch and decided to become a high-carb, low-fat (HCLF) vegan. She lost tons of weight, felt a thousand times better, and began helping others to do the same.

This girl’s next level truth (at least one of them) might have been something like, “There’s a better life for me right now, and HCLF veganism is the way to go.”

All the while, someone else in a similar condition could be more like a dimmable light switch, and maybe they would lean instead toward a high fat, low-carb (HFLC) diet. For this person, it might be over the course of months that they gradually learn about and change their diet and improve their well-being proportionally.

(To note, I mention HCLF and HFLC diets because mid-carb, mid-fat diets, especially with gobs of protein, more or less always lead to disease.)

We recognize and only need to recognize our individually unique next-level truths.

Truths We Recognize, Type 3

We recognize truths that any of our senses make “obvious.”

This one is touchy because what our senses pick up objectively is interpreted (i.e.: perceived) very subjectively due to our beliefs.

Yet there are things that happen in which, although the witnesses do very clearly see the truth, the internal distortions of the witnesses inhibit their ability to consciously, acceptingly see what is obviously right in front of them.

For example, consider the Pentagon attack on 9/11. The official story is that it was hit by a Boeing 757.

But tell me please, of what could be seen of the wreckage…
  • Where was the plane? Any piece of shrapnel whatsoever? It’s simply not possible for the whole plane to have absolutely “vaporized” as claimed.
  • Where were the wings? A distant edge of them? An accordioned, pancaked strip of them? Should they not have sheared off as the body of the plane supposedly went straight in through the building’s various layers, especially through the "heavily fortified" outer wall?
  • Why weren’t there any lengthy indentations in the outer wall of the building as though wings had hit it?
  • At the horizontal angle as shown in the Pentagon’s one, super grainy security camera video and also at the horizontal angle of the round hole through the layers of the building, how is it possible that the supposed plane didn’t disrupt any traffic whatsoever on the nearby freeway nor rip down any utility poles or lines as it arrived at such a direct, horizontal angle while moving 350 miles per hour and necessarily nearly touching the ground immediately prior to impact?

There are soooo many discrepancies in the official story, but I’m only noting a few things that are a given based on US mainstream media footage. These are things that we had all seen on the news that day and can still see in recordings exactly as they had been. No one needs to be an aeronautical engineer or architect or conspiracy theorist, and no deeper research has to be done to realize that the official story is bogus.

Everyone had seen the obvious on 9/11: a building that showed zero evidence of a humungous plane having hit it at an incredibly high rate of speed and a very low angle. But due to contrary beliefs and our trust of the “authoritative” media’s and government’s narrative, few of us have ever allowed the obvious truth to became conscious.

The truth has been right before us. The intense reactivity and defensiveness that a great many people put up when this is suggested to them is the telltale sign: there is knowing, but the belief-fortifications against it are very, very strong.

It’s a Choice

The subconscious picks up astronomically high numbers of sensory inputs every moment of our lives. Yet we only consciously perceive a minute fraction of these.

Much of this data is filtered out simply because it’s largely irrelevant to us and we’d die due to stimuli overload in a matter of .0002 seconds were we suddenly aware of it all.

Still, what we’re capable of being consciously aware of is fantastically greater than what we’re all consciously aware of currently. What filters out most of this data from our conscious awareness is our beliefs: our imagined truths about “what is” and “what is not,” about “what can and cannot be.”

For they who don’t wish to know the reality of life in all its wonders and horrors (they’re inseparable, by the way), lots of limiting beliefs are the perfect medication.

For we who want to know ever higher truths, we must make the choice to release our beliefs about “how life is.” Beliefs are, after all, little more than a self-security mechanism for the ego: “If I believe [this], it will appear true to me, and then I can then say, ‘I know [this],’ and feel protected from the infinite uncertainty of life.”

Reality just is, so we don’t need to create any beliefs about it. We simply have to release our imagined truths, the very ideas which cause us to perceive “what isn’t,” in order for us to see “what is.”

Friday, May 17, 2019

The Spiritual and the Religious; the Active and the Awake

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

Are being spiritually active and spiritually awake the same?

Are spiritual activity and religious activity the same?

If they’re different, why?

Spiritual Activity

Attending a religious service, praying, reading a holy book, and chanting a Sanskrit mantra might be considered spiritual activities.

What may come as a surprise is that activities such as gardening, making music, and cooking can also be spiritually-oriented.

While we don’t generally think of the latter group as pertaining to spirituality, truth is, the former group isn’t necessarily spiritual either. It’s dependent upon the mentality of the doer.

Stated in uncommon terms, what would make an activity spiritual is the removal of one’s attention from the left-mind-based, dualistic illusion we think of as “reality” and a placement of focus instead on one’s beingness. Whether praying or painting, if the doer is focused in-the-moment and without egoic attachment, the activity becomes a spiritual activity. One does not have to be aware of one’s self as being spiritually active in order to reap the benefits.

It should be said, however, that some spiritual activities offer greater benefits than others. Meditation is a prime example due to its intense inward focus.

Spiritual activity will advance one along the spiritual path (whatever that means for a given person), but it’s neither a prerequisite for nor an assurer of a spiritual awakening in a given lifetime.

Spiritual Wakefulness

It can be said that a spiritual awakening is “the soul realizing itself in human form.”

Awakening is a radical shift in an individual’s perception of “who I am” and “how life is.”

Awakening begins the divinely guided process of seeing and releasing all that isn’t true to one’s inherent, pure-spirited nature. This is to say, karma must be balanced: fears and false beliefs must be removed, traumas must be healed, repressed emotions must be felt, forgiveness must be given, and so on. With intuitive awareness, all these things become clear, they cannot be unseen, and avoidance of them quickly makes them worse.

Contrast this to unawakened experience: life externally reflects internal troubles to everyone for healing but runs on more of a go-at-your-own-pace timetable and allows for a great deal of avoidance (think: coping mechanisms such as alcoholism and complaining).

As to how awakening comes about perceptually, this can’t be said specifically. Even though all souls, as individual beings, will ultimately come to the same spiritual realizations about self, God, and existence, in the beginning awakening hits everyone in a more or less different way: one person might suddenly recall memories from past lives, another person might unexpectedly fall into a state of profound mental silence and peace, another person might receive intuitive awareness of alternate dimensions, another person (as happened with me) might simply realize that something has changed dramatically, though the “what” may be uncertain, and they’re now strongly drawn to and intuitively aware of the finer, lighter, and more natural things of life.

Absent previous spiritual activity, a person will be drawn toward it upon having a spiritual awakening. If they’d been spiritually active prior to awakening, their activity will be enhanced and they will see an intensification of benefits. They will also have a better sense of which activities are best suited to them as an individual. If a person had been religiously active, any religious falsities will become clear and change will become a necessity.

A Glimpse of Beyond

When yet unawakened and whether someone is spiritually active or not, it is possible for a person to be graced with a momentary glimpse beyond the veil This could be described as receiving a taste of any variation of awakened perception.

For example, a person might be out in the woods and suddenly feel a deep inner peace and a strong sense of connection with all the life around them. Or while intensely training their bodies for a sporting competition they might experience a “runner’s high.” Using certain drugs or having a Near Death Experience can bring about the most profound of these glimpses beyond.

Whatever the case, the glimpse-type of experience could be called a “spiritual opening,” for while it may be intense in its spiritual/metaphysical/mystical implications, once it passes—and it will—an experiencer can and will often choose to go right back to doing whatever they’d been doing prior as if nothing had ever happened.

Timing of Awakening

A spiritual awakening is bestowed by Divine Grace. It comes in its own Divine Timing and cannot be forced to happen. It is not an intellectual or scientific discovery, and you don’t find it, it finds you—within.

A person can do all sorts of religious and/or spiritual practices everyday of their life, but there is a fundamental, soul-triggered shift that’s required for an awakening.

This is not to discourage spiritual practice. By all means, do it! Spiritual activity can still bring great positive change to one’s self and the world. It’s just to say that there is a difference—a huge difference—between being spiritually active and having had a spiritual awakening, the timing of which is anyone’s guess.

We’re all created from the same Source and will all return to the same Source. The difference is in the paths we take, these paths being set by our souls. When one’s soul says it’s time to awaken, it’s time to awaken, regardless of how spiritually active a given person had been beforehand.

Spiritual Activity Versus Religious Activity

In pointing out differences between spiritual activity and spiritual wakefulness, there’s a kind of challenge that may arise, and this is to avoid equating being spiritually active—and especially spiritually awake—with being religiously active.

I’ve gone over this topic a number of times before and don’t wish to repeat it here. I only wish to point out that because religions (mostly Western) have so often distorted spiritual truth, a great many people who have been following their religion religiously have been religiously active, not spiritually active.

To those for whom this applies, I realize this may be profoundly upsetting and very difficult to accept—or liberating if you allow it. It is true nevertheless and can be recognized due to its support of the limited mindset of “who I am” and “how life is” that we’ve been collectively carrying for eons—the mindset of lack, unworthiness, guilt, victimhood, shame, innate sinfulness, separation from God, etc.

Spiritual truth states that all of existence—be it mineral, plant, animal, human, cell, water, star—everything!—is on a level playing field; All That Is is unconditionally loved by and in oneness with God; abundance, perfection, and wholeness are everywhere. (This not to suggest the endorsement of wearing rose-colored glasses.)

Also, religion (again, Western) often has a heavy focus on spirituality as being rooted in intellectual knowledge. This idea is propagated and perpetuated by false religious teachings and a world culture that focuses on the need to “know” and get “out there” while completely denying what is “in here.”

True spiritual activity and spiritual wakefulness drive a process of unlearning. This is not to say that the intellect is thrown out like moldy bread—there’s nothing wrong with learning. It’s simply understood both that much of what we learn is contrary to spiritual truth and that the sheer conceptualization and endlessly gathering and studying of data from “out there” does not help us to know who or what we and God truly are.

“How Do I Know If I’m Spiritually Active?”

Now that we’ve looked at the difference between spiritual activity and spiritual wakefulness and have pointed out that religious activity doesn’t necessarily equate with spiritual activity or spiritual wakefulness, it’s worth gaining more clarity as to what spiritual activity is and how we would know it.

Generally, a consequence of the spiritual path is that the one practicing feels good.

Ideally, when we meditate or chant “Shri Ram Jai Ram” or sing “Ave Maria” or help the homeless, it makes us feel good in a non-egoic way. Such an activity is a spiritual activity because lifts our spirits and helps to lift the spirits of others.

What are not spiritual activities, for example, are reading scripture because we feel forced to, or meditating on a street corner for the sake of being seen as “spiritual people,” or dumping our paths on others because we’ve been told that our way is “The One Right Way.”

These activities may please us very momentarily as we feel the relief of having satisfied our or someone else’s selfish desires, but they will not inherently feel good to us, we will continue craving/needing more, and they will not help to lift our spirits or anyone else’s.

Worse is when there’s a religious activity that’s claimed to be “spiritual” such as the Sacrament of Reconciliation. I can’t speak for everyone, perhaps for a few people it really does help, but on consideration of my own life experience and between my observations and my intuitive “get” of the lives of others, confessing (purported) sins to a priest (who is himself a sinner) under the false and insensible belief that the confessor is too unworthy to directly request forgiveness from God is replete with unnecessary guilt, shame, and self-rejection.

Yes, the confessor may feel a shred better afterward thinking that their sins had actually been forgiven. But guilt, which is often bogus, had obviously driven them to the confessional, and should they slip up just once afterward—and they will—the guilt will settle right back in. But really, as I've seen with myself and far too many others, the guilt simply never leaves; nothing ever actually heals because the base, subconscious programming never changes.

This is not spiritual—it’s torture.

Keep the following in mind, too, for it is no small thing:

As much as the spiritual path generally leaves a person feeling good in consequence—this for the reason that it usually feels good to be free, to be kind, to be loving, to be in integrity, and so on—the path is not about feeling good; it’s not about going out and trying to feel good; it’s not about getting a spiritual high.

Spirituality is far removed from our conventional way of thinking and feeling because the spiritual path is about feeling everything that arises, which includes healing old, repressed hurts and being able to witness others who hurt without needing to avoid it or change it.

Our world culture, and many times even religion, has told us to avoid pain or “fix” it; it’s told us that if something discomforts us, stuff the emotion down, go drink a beer or get a few dopamine hits through new Facebook likes, and then resentfully complain about what offends us to our neighbor.

On the spiritual path, rather than running away when pain—more specifically: suffering—arises, the feeling is felt into and self-inquired about as to why it’s arising. The issue can then be resolved. Painful though this can be upfront, the result is some smaller or greater degree of freedom, peace, love, and so forth within. Naturally, these same qualities reflect themselves without.


With these distinctions being given between the spiritual and the religious, between the active and the awake, bear in mind that this is not meant to be any kind of judgment of “who is better than” and “who is less than.”

We all wake up in whatever lifetime we wake up in: it’s a matter of soul choice, not, say, a measure of God’s love for a particular individual or God’s rejection of another. We’ve all come from the same place and we’re all going back to the same place, but we’re all on different paths with different timings.

The best any of us can do is be true to ourselves and live for the soul purposes we’ve come here to live. This is where non-judgmental self-security is found.

If we’re not feeling secure in our beliefs and choices, if we become angry and feel jealousy when others appear more spiritually aware than us, then we’re not being true to ourselves or to the purposes we’ve come here to live.

I mean, sort of, we may be. If we’d come here to experience what it’s like to get entangled in false religio-spiritual ideas (and we all get entangled in something), then fine. But there’s no path designed to go in without coming back out. Distortion is used to reveal “what is not” in order for us, should we choose healing, to more deeply realize what we are. In this realization is self-truth and self-security.

Follow the Flow

As water and electricity follow the path of least resistance, so do those who walk a spiritual path. (We do our best, anyway!)

This does not mean that they avoid pain, per se, for pain is a guidepost. But they do make a continuous effort to understand their pain as well as pain’s close friend, suffering, as not to keep repeating them. To avoid is to resist, and to resist is to create more pain and suffering.

It would thus do us well to examine our religious and/or spiritual practice if we have one. Are we being religiously active and, as commonly happens, perpetuating pain and suffering? Are we truly spiritually active, religiously or not?

If we don’t have a spiritual practice, I’m not so sure we can simply start one. Maybe, but I think it’s more of an internal thing: either the interest is there or it’s not; we can’t make it be there. And there’s nothing wrong with this, for it’s the soul’s desire or it wouldn’t be happening.

Although, we might begin a meditation practice. Because, really, there’s actually nothing particularly spiritual about basic meditation—it’s simply a focus on the “space between.”

Whatever happens, happens; whatever doesn’t, doesn’t. Either way, since we’re innately spiritual beings and meditation reconnects us with this beingness, we must see improvements both spiritual and otherwise reflected in everyday life. These could show up as peace, as more intent focus, greater happiness, or whatever like that…

You know, the things we all wish for but haven't yet found by any external means.

Tuesday, May 7, 2019

You're Human, Joe. So Be Human!

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

This one goes out to the overly identified, average Joe (and Jane, but Jane must at times read between the lines; the “why” will be quite evident soon enough…).

Dear Joe,

God put you here as a human. So stop trying to be not-human.

We’re all unique and we’re all at least a little bit screwed up, you included, and we don’t help ourselves by rejecting what we are.

While some aspects of ourselves are distorted to one degree or another and must be healed, other aspects only appear distorted because we believe and thus perceive them to be so. Were the false beliefs resolved, we might continue on with these things in joy and gratitude for their existence in our lives.

That Man “Thing”

For example, Joe, you as a man (or so we’ll assume with the name of “Joe”) have a thing between your legs called a penis.

Many men pretend that this thing is not there. They’re afraid to touch it like it’s going to bite them, they’ll grow hair on their palms, they’ll go blind, or God will send them straight to hell if it happens to become erect.

Lots of men grow big ol’ tummies as not to scar their eyesight should they catch even a peripheral glance of it. This increase in body fat serves to deepen the repression further because it causes issues which effect as a decrease in libido and impotence.

That people accept this is unsettling. A General would not be okay if there were a Private in his presence that refused to stand at attention. You shouldn’t be okay with it either.

You might yet disagree, Joe, but a penis is actually a pretty happenin’ thing; it’s a very human (and otherwise mammalian) thing. What makes it unhappenin’ and “unhuman” is a bunch of stupid ideas that you’ve been taught by the wacky religio-cultural traditions of our world.

They’d gotten people to believe their lies many long years ago, they’d enforced the lies in many traumatic ways, and the collective has carried the lies and trauma forward through the ages. But they’re just that: lies.

If you would take some time to look within, you would see this. You would see that you’ve been taught to shun your humanism for the selfish desires of others, at a major cost to you and to no benefit whatsoever.

Keep in mind that God did put that thing there, after all. So rather than seeing it as an inherent evil, try seeing it as part of a tool-based lesson.

Suppose you have an overeating eating disorder. Physically speaking, your tools are food, digestion, hunger, etc., and your lesson might be to substitute the fast-food and doughnuts for real food, to get off the sofa and go to the gym, and to stop working for your parents’ approval and do something that nourishes your soul. No lesson would be learned by going to an extreme such as having gastric bypass surgery or deciding that food is evil and then becoming anorexic.

The situation with your man-business is more or less the same. Learn to see it as a tool rather than an inherent curse. Stop repressing it’s needs, get in touch with yourself (inside, I mean, but outside is good, too), and use it how it was meant to be used in conjunction with a healthy lifestyle.

Your Spiritual Essence

Joe, you may have heard the saying that we’re not human beings who have spiritual experiences but spiritual beings who have human experiences.

We must then assume, if we don’t know, that there is some greater significance to being spirits embodied as humans than merely “getting through” and then, hopefully, going to heaven.

But many people don’t assume this, and so, for fear of going to hell for eternity while simultaneously feeling terrible guilt and believing themselves unworthy of heaven, they take on a “spiritual” identity. This can operate in different guises, but I’d like to tell you about a particular circumstance from my own life in which I had experienced this…

Just after having a spiritual awakening around ten years ago, I felt strongly compelled to get rid of most of my belongings. In this were my video games and consoles and about 200 CDs.

There were certainly other reasons this has happened that I won’t touch on right now, but it seem to me that it was partly due to a need to purge out discordant internal programs such as, “I am a spiritual person,” and, “I have to act like a spiritual person.”

I think I had detach from my earthly identity and act out enough of the “spiritual” identity to see that “being spiritual” is nonsense.

For, now, ten years hence, after having done a great deal of healing, I’m finding myself attracted to similar games and music again. This attraction is not in quite the same way, but it I’m unmistakably interested, nonetheless.

What I’ve come to see, Joe, is that I’m meant to be in touch with my spiritual nature, to deepen my connection with my true, spiritual Self and to learn Life’s spiritual lessons that only come in physical form—but I’m also here to honor those physically-oriented things that “click” with me.

Even if you’re not in the midst of a spiritual awakening, you’re still in the same boat because you are also a spiritual being having a human experience. If you truly have an issue that’s causing you to harm yourself or others, then you would do well to heal it. But if something you’re doing isn’t exactly “productive” or “divine” or whatever, so what?

Enjoy being a human being while being a human being. God’s not sending anyone to hell just because they enjoy playing Mario Kart or listening to The Offspring or kicking a soccer ball around or driving an expensive sports car. It’s far less about what you do than how you do it; than the perspective from which you do it.

Such Is How It Is Until It Isn’t

Misguided and prodded on by a messed up world culture, you, Joe, like everyone else, have bought into all sorts of silly ideas.

One example of this would be if you were to act as though it’s your personal responsibility to single-handedly save the environment by recycling everything, using less gas by shifting your car into neutral every time you drive down a hill, and so on.

While recycling and lessening your usage of gas and other similar behaviors are in their essence helpful, what’s not helpful at all is carrying the guilt that compels false responsibility and unhealthy behaviors.

It serves no one to be wasteful or destructive, but let’s be realistic: We’re human beings doing human things, and we will do things as we do them until we do them differently.

Be a human being, Joe. Drive a car if you need to drive a car. If a bike or a bus or a carpool with the neighbors truly works, fine. But trying to “save” is often the hard way, not because, say, our means aren't yet efficient enough, but because of the faulty internal programming it’s based on.

Do what feels right, not what your ego forces down your throat because government “authorities” have continued to guilt-trip you into believing that you are solely responsible for climate change.

And get this… It is only in being human—in accepting ourselves and Life as it is—that Life will gift us with the awareness of Real Solutions to the problems that actually exist.

For example, were you not totally fixated on the imaginary “problem” that ,Oil is a scarce commodity, and I have to be super careful how much I use, and blah, blah, blah, Life would begin to show you how The System is really designed and present you with alternate ways to more easefully work within The System while lessening your support of it.

Would enough people detach, The System would fail and alternate, more ideal means would proliferate.

Being human can be amazingly difficult. Sadly, most of this difficulty is completely unnecessary and occurs only because people are unable to accept their own humanity.

Freedom Is Your Birthright

We’ve all been taught to see with tunnel vision, Joe. We’ve all been taught limitation of personality, like Person A has to have traits 1, 2, and 3, and Person B has to have traits 4, 5, and 6, and Person C has to have traits 7, 8, and 9, and none can overlap or become the other, nor can any take on traits $, @, or }. God save he who dares to become Person V^ with traits 3, 16d, and %.

This is what we’ve been calling “normal,” and our society worships it only because everyone is so caught up in the lies. They fear accepting that everything they’ve learned and become is false, so they repress themselves and condemn and punish those who act with any degree of deviancy.

In reality, in truth behind all the facades, we’re all far more like Person V^ than Person A, B, or C. By “civilized” standards truly healthy people are anything but “normal,” yet “normal” in a society as distorted as ours is fantastically unhealthy.

We live in a society, Joe, where we’ve been taught things like drinking alcohol to in-toxic-ation is just dandy, and where it’s totally honorable for hundreds of thousands of teenagers to sign up to go off to foreign lands and murder, or be murdered by, “enemies” in the name of “freedom,” “peace,” and “God.”

But, for example, if someone dyes their hair bright green and then goes to church, people freak out about how awful the person is. “That is so disrespectful to God! She should be ashamed of herself!”

Is it? Should she? Or is it “so disrespectful to God” that most people are wallowing endlessly in a state of repression and fear of being true to themselves; of being the unique, creative, and free human beings God has intended each of us to be? (1)

Think about it: You don’t have to force a child to play or draw or sing or dance. The child does these things automatically and spontaneously.

What the child doesn’t do—what no child does—automatically and spontaneously is wake up at 7:00 am sharp Monday through Friday, eat the same breakfast, put on the same uniform, spend eight hours sitting at a desk while rehearsing his emotionally stifling standardization etiquette, and so on.

All such behaviors are forced and must be constantly reinforced lest they be lost and a reversion to freedom result.

Adults are nothing more than System-zombified children… Except those who we remember because they’d done something significant to improve the world: these being the same people who refused to let repression and standardization consume them.

Choose Humanism

We’re not human beings who have spiritual experiences but spiritual beings who have human experiences.

By all means, Joe, if you truly feel compelled to lead a path of abstinence that drives full-bore toward the spiritual, I’m not suggesting that be avoided—assuming you do it in a non-repressive manner.

This is probably not the case for you, however, because it’s not the case for most people. So have a human experience. Live your life at the level of consciousness you exist in, not fourteen levels higher. Welcome the spiritual into your life, but welcome in the human, too.

The latter is, after all, why you’re having a human experience: Not to run away from your humanness into what you imagine is “spirituality,” but to open to and integrate your true spiritual nature into your human form as you explore the unending diversity of physical existence.

You're human, Joe, so be human!


(1) It’s only natural that people might argue of this point, “But bright green hair in church is so distracting.” Is it really? Or is the distraction the mental-emotional state from which people are viewing the situation that causes them to refuse acceptance of what is, to divert their attention, and to blame it judgmentally on “other”? If bright green hair were common, no one would think anything of it… Maybe when babies cry their mothers should put duct tape over their mouths or lock them in the car with closed windows until the service is over… A bit over-the-top, no? But increasingly unhealthy reactivity is what happens when we focus on solving effects rather than causes: “Let me try to control others, because I'm unable to control my own thoughts.”

Tuesday, April 30, 2019

Truth: It's Beyond Belief

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

“The only person who is educated is the one who has learned how to learn and change.”
--Carl Rogers

If you want the truth, you must release the belief that what you don’t know will be explainable in terms you already accept.

What the “truth” is doesn’t particularly matter for there are always greater truths and higher and wider perspectives.

It's just that, because belief creates perception, you'll only ever see higher and greater truths to the extent that you're free of the idea that what you now think you know is either an end in itself or a necessity to understanding what you don’t yet know.

At times you may have to learn a given thing in order to understand some other given thing, but many times it is essential to throw out what had been learned previously in order for the new to clarify.

To an ancient Grecian, a light bulb would be a miracle. The carrier of the light bulb would be considered godly. But there's neither miracle nor god. There’s merely ever-present electricity channeled through an appropriate medium that’s housed in glass.

The ancient Grecian could never understand the light bulb in terms of what he already knew.

In finance, spirituality, religion, history, astronomy, biology, or whatever, the same holds true: You may never be able to understand what is yet unknown to you by continuing to look at it in terms of what you think is true.

Simply give up your belief-attachments to all your imagined hows and whys and what-is-possible-and-what-is-nots—the very ones you now believe to be “the truth”—and you will begin seeing the deeper ways of life that have been in front of you all along.

...And of course, don't hold on to anything you learn too tightly because it's seeming validity is only relative to where you stand to look at it. It will change as you do.

Monday, April 22, 2019

“Cry for Me. Would You, Please?”

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness


Let’s cut to the chase.

Okay, well, maybe not. Because to chase something means to go after it. So in this case, the chase is actually complaining itself.

What we need to do is cut to the catch: an understanding that will put the mentality that drives complaining in its proper place.

The Brutal Truth

When a person complains, they are basically saying:

“Pity me. Save me. I am (perceiving myself to be) a helpless, worthless victim.”

If this sounds exaggerated, you can rest assured it’s not. As I’ve said elsewhere, I used to complain around 100% of the time I had my mouth open. Quite the opposite is now true, and a lot has been revealed to me in hindsight.

Our negative behaviors always have a brutal truth (or ten) hiding behind them.

Your Life Sucks, I Know

Suppose at work your boss told you that you have to do overtime for the next two weeks in order to satisfy a certain customer’s needs.

You find this frustrating as is, but worse is that not only did your boss not ask if you’re willing—he demanded it—you also know that your boss is pushing you because he’s trying to make up for a past mistake that he, not you, is responsible for. But victim that you perceive yourself to be, you smiled and replied to your boss, “Yeah. Okay. That’ll be fine.”

Inside you’re burning. Your work has become more difficult because you can’t stop thinking about what an ass your boss is. At lunch you complain with coworkers who’d also been pulled in. After work you hit the bar and complain with a few of the regulars. At home you complain to your spouse and make some less-than-positive social media posts about your lousy life. In between all else you complain in your own head, and when you go to bed you dream that you’re being whipped by your boss.

The next day you wake up, still annoyed, make a few “choice” comments about your job to your spouse, and then go off to work. Five minutes into your twenty-minute drive, someone cuts you off and forces you into another lane. Your inner-burning intensifies, now about something else.

At work, you complain to those in nearby cubicles about the dickweed that nearly killed you just minutes earlier. They naturally take your side and complain with you about lousy drivers in their lives and the multitude of other injustices life serves out to them undeservedly.

Birds of a feather flock together, so there are always plenty of people for you to complain to and who will complain right back. And so it goes.

The Victim Conspiracy

Did that make you tired just by reading it? Because it made me feel tired just by writing it. And indeed, it’s exhausting stuff, but this is what complaining is like.

Complaining stems from a victim mentality. This is a very intoxicating form of self-identity (and self-absorption) that causes the carrier to constantly perceive the things of life, often even the harmless things, as hazardous, as though all of life is conspiring to hurt the complainer.

Since the outer world mirrors the inner, this conspiracy theory does actually hold some water to the extent that life gives us all what we fear and believe: Victims must necessarily perceive perpetrators.

A complainer must be linked to this perception, a complainer must see life as on the offensive, because without offenders the victim mentality, and thus the “who I am” self-identity, could not be upheld.

Victimization must at least appear to happen in order to support the (illusory) perception, in order to uphold (false) beliefs and fears, in order to maintain the Law of Free Will.

Where Are They Now?

Complaining doesn’t happen in the moment of an unpleasing incident. Rather, it happens seconds, days, and decades or more later. (“Men would be just fine without women. Eve bit the apple first.”)

Of any given person, place, thing, or situation for which you complain about…

…where is that person right now?
  • Another room?
  • A different country?
  • Six feet under?
…where is that place right now?
  • Up the street?
  • The next town over?
  • The other side of the world?
…where is that thing right now?
  • In the garage?
  • At work?
  • In a landfill?
…where is that situation right now?
  • In a history book?
  • Potentially somewhere in the future?
  • Back when you were a teenager?

Chances are extremely high that whatever it is you’re complaining about is not currently in your life experience. It’s therefore directly affecting you in no way whatsoever, right now.

This means that your greatest enemy is your own thinking. You have a given experience (or hear of someone else's), your thoughts and perceptions make you a victim to it, and then, by way of complaining, you get off (if subconsciously) to perpetuating that victimhood.

It’s no mistake that you are at the center of all of your life’s problems. For the form of victimhood in which complaining is concerned is happening is in your mind only.

The real problem is you.

And how’s this for irony? …You go to work, unpleasant things happen so you become miserable, and then you go home and complain. In other words, you’re still at work! You’d been so annoyed because you had to work overtime, and now you’re working double-overtime! And that schlep who’d cut you off in the morning—he’s long gone. But you, you’re still dragging him around, cutting off your own life!

Wasting Hate

“Okay. So, maybe I complain a lot; maybe I’m being negative. But my boss is a jackass! And do you realize how many shitty drivers are out there?”

Stop blaming others. Yes, people can be jackasses and people can be shitty drivers (and sometimes both). But they’re in your life primarily because you draw them to you. You want a reason to complain, but because the causal reason is unconscious to you and because it's not true to who you really are, Life manifests an effectual situation into your experience in an effort to make the causal reason visible for the sake of healing.

Until you accept that your blaming and complaining is hurting you far more than it’s helping and then you do something to change, your life is going to keep on sucking.

If blaming and complaining were actually helping, don’t you think circumstances would have resolved by now? Don’t you think you’d feel better? Don’t you think you’d have less and less to stress and blame and complain about if your “venting” truly vented your pent-up agitation?

Hence, why you can complain to fifty people and could complain just as passionately to fifty more: because whatever you’re looking to get—pity, sympathy, release, satisfaction, justification, a savior—it doesn’t exist, it doesn’t help, or it’s positive but your negativity is pushing it further away.


Make no mistake: It is perfectly fine to vent sometimes. But when people make a living of bitching, pissing, and moaning about countless things in life, especially repeatedly and over the long haul, they prove that they have no conceptualization for or ability to actually accept, release, and move on.

That is venting: Taking a moment to unload in a non-destructive way and then being done with it. In clarity, a person can accept their circumstances as is and choose empowerment to deal with things as they are or to make them better.

You Are the Puzzle, So You Must Be All of the Pieces

The other thing about complaining is this: No one gets you the way you do.

If people complain with you, although they may seem sympathetic, they are involving themselves because they see you as an opportunity to vent their own frustrations.

If they show pity, it’s because they don’t understand that a victim makes his- or herself a victim—it’s not imposed by any external force. If they could actually see this, they’d never fall prey to your false, poor-me identity or offer pity because it’s uncalled for.

Otherwise, the one to whom you complain may get you to the extent that, say, you and a coworker have both been “forced” to work overtime and both of you hate it, but the fact that you are two, separate individuals (even if the best of friends and lovers) means that there is necessarily a disconnect.

You complain because you’re looking for inner-peace; you’re looking to be heard and validated. Trouble is, no one external carries the uniquely-shaped pieces of fulfillment that interlock specifically with your emptiness. Unless you wish to go on complaining forever, you as the complainer must therefore find what you seek within.

Make It Real

If you’re a complainer and are reading this, do you get it now? Do you see where you stand with this? Is it now clear to you why complaining is useless (unless you want to remain a victim)? How it’s only serving to hurt you? How it’s you hurting yourself?

No one can do for you what you have to do for you: become your own source of fulfillment, of empowerment, of peace, of happiness.

And you can do this, you do have what you need within you.

Life is one; life is whole. Whatever you’re carrying that’s negative, there’s necessarily a positive polarity to match. It’s just that if you want this positive then you have to learn to give it your attention like you currently give your attention to the negative.

The quote, “Be the change you want to see in the world,” isn’t offered lightly. What appears to us as real is only as real as each of us make it.

If you want your reality to be positive, then you have to make it that way.