Sunday, January 3, 2016

Childhood Trauma: Fetal Development and Birth

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

In the Womb

Take a few moments if you would to imagine life in a mother’s womb.

So warm and cozy. So constantly nourishing. Dark, calm, soft, snug. Peaceful.

Not that you as a fetus and soon-to-be-birthed human being realize any such things since you lack comparative references, but intuitively you know that the conditions mother provides are perfect.

Until labor begins.

Unexpected Movement and the Big Squeeze

Suddenly, your bliss is shattered as your bubble breaks and you begin moving downward.

Mother’s calm ends as well, and you sense this shift deeply. Suddenly you’re enveloped in deep concern and hurry, very possibly including some degree of fear and panic.

After a period of all sorts of stressors you’d never felt before, you’re being thrust through an opening seemingly too small.

But you do make it through… just to be welcomed into a most cruel environment…

Into the Doctor’s Arms: If It Can Traumatize, the Hospital Is Doing It.

Within moments, you shift from a state of the darkest darks to one of brilliant light. The temperature has also plummeted by roughly 25 degrees. So, too, now there is a sense of hardness where before there’d been only the soft contours of the womb.

Assuming you appear normal, you’re placed into your mother’s arms. Not that the trauma ends here, however, because there are so many people around taking pictures and cheering… at, what seems to you, your pain and suffering.

If you appear mildly abnormal, at the very least you may not be given directly to your mother. Instead, the umbilical cord is cut, you’re hung upside down by your ankles in one of the doctor’s hands, and then spanked with the doctor’s other. Should your appearance be moderately to majorly abnormal, God only knows what kinds of medical procedures and traumas ensue.

But assuming things go reasonably well and you’re handed back to your mother, sometime soon thereafter you will be taken away. Depending upon your parents beliefs, if you’re male you will be circumcised. Then you’ll be taken to some other area of the hospital for various tests.

You may even ultimately find that, until you leave the hospital you will be kept in the nursery and returned to your mother only for feeding.

Returned and abandoned over and over and over again. Hungry, fed, hungry, fed, hungry; over and over and over again.

An important note to be made here is that these traumas are compounded greatly by mothers who themselves experience crises during fetal development, are substance/pharmaceutical users/abusers, are emotionally imbalanced, require a C-section, and so forth. Also, since mother and father are perceived by the child as the male and female halves of unconditional love, although the father isn’t actually bearing the child, his role, his presence and care, is still critical to the well-being of the overall process.

Going Home

After all of perhaps two days in the hospital, you’re sent home. And thus begins the post-hospital trauma reinforcement.

Aside from any time prior, at the most impressionable you will ever be, now begins life in the real world. After spending a few meager weeks with your mother, she is, like your oft absent father, off to work while you are left in the hands of strangers at a place called “child care.”

At night you sleep alone, and at regular intervals you go to the doctor and have vaccination needles shot into you.

Mommy tells you, “It’s okay. Don’t cry. Don’t cry. There’s nothing wrong.”

To which, since you can’t speak or think in words but are highly skilled in comprehending their underlying energy, you sense: Mother is lying to me. It’s not okay. She hurts to see me have these needles and their toxic contents stuck in me. But it is Mother speaking. Mother knows best. I will learn to repress my tears when I feel pain, fear, and suffering. I will be strong. I will bear it all inside. I cannot admit that I feel something is wrong if Mother says there is not.

And on it goes. Just born, so innocent, and the subconscious traumas are forged which will haunt the child, potentially, likely, straight through to the grave.

Ending the Birth Trauma

In life as we know it, it’s simply not feasible, or necessarily possible, to remove all of the potential trauma triggers from the immediate birthing process. Nonetheless, what does occur needn’t carry nearly the load of drama that creates and reinforces the trauma as is currently par for course.

Here are some ideas for a more loving and gentle birthing experience:
  1. For the mothers: Birth your children at home with holistically trained midwife. Lighting would be dim and you might play soothing music. The child can be born into a tub or small pool of warm water. The newborn would be held by the mother immediately. The father would be present and take responsibility as necessary. These conditions and others of a similar positive nature have been shown time and again to produce the most physically, mentally, and emotionally stable people.

  2. Doctor’s must learn to treat people like people—especially extremely impressionable and fragile infants—rather than like numbered robots. Yes, the nature of science may be objectivity, and, yes, it’s tremendously difficult to open one’s heart in the midst of a disease-, pain-, and suffering-ridden hospital. But no one truly helps another if they have a closed heart, for a closed heart is a hateful heart, and a hateful heart merely perpetuates the disease, pain, and suffering one is striving to avoid.

  3. Mothers and fathers must learn to stand up for themselves and demand from government and business and the like what is in the best interest for families, immediate and of humanity. Using at least the previous 13,000 years (minus the last 50 or so) as a historical data reference, there is absolutely no reason why both parents need to work and leave their children in the hands of strangers for 8+ hours per day. This isn’t to say we need to “go pre-industrialized” or something ridiculous like that but that the path we’re plodding is bound for utter collapse. And most people know this, but most people are also still waiting for some “authority” to tell them they’ve found a “better way”… Which, if you’ve not happened to notice, they do say just this from time to time—at which point things always get worse.

  4. If you’re older, work with a therapist to help you resolve your own traumas. Everyone’s got them, it’s just that they’re usually subconscious. We therefore spend our lives unwittingly thinking, speaking, and acting based on birthing/childhood traumas rather than out of self-integrity. Likewise, it may be useful, if you are a parent, to have your child go to a therapist if he or she is willing.

  5. If you are a parent, be with your kids now, be a part of their lives, be real with them. It may be 30 years after their birth, and they most likely have traumas they’re dealing with unconsciously, but you can’t let that get in the way unless they just don’t want anything to do with you. The objective here is to do your best to love them and be there for them in whatever way they make space for you to do so… Keep in mind with this that as a parent, due to the nature of karma, your child has probably had passed on to him or her whatever you are experiencing yourself. But, again, it may well be repressed in you or expressed differently and you need to personally iron it out before attempting to clean up your relationship with your child. (In fact, it can happen that a child’s trauma clears seemingly automatically when one or both parents clean up their own similar trauma.)


What we must aim for now is a reorientation of everything related to fetal development, birthing, and the post-birth and early childhood experiences. They are without a doubt contained within the most pivotal time in a human’s life—excluding potential future healing (which is never a given), the peace or roughness of the earliest moments of a human’s life essentially determines the level of ease or difficulty with which that individual will live.

To start, this essentially means that we—both women and men—need to begin by changing at an individual level. Because when we educate ourselves, when we resolve harmful personal habits, when we move into integrity between true personal needs and work, relationship, etc., the very experience we create for ourselves and others—most notably, the ones we volunteer to bring into this world—become that much more grounded in love and wholeness.

Such an individual change as it accumulates with other individual’s changes in the collective consciousness will manifest, by natural law (“As within, so without; as above, so below.”), as an extraordinary alteration in The System and life itself.

This may seem a monumental task, but it can certainly be done. Indeed, it is already being done by some, and it is waiting to be done by more people still—people like me, people like you.


The Spirit Wiki: Perinatal Matrices
The linked article and related entries define and elaborate on the stages of fetal development and birthing and the potential traumas associated with each.

YouTube: Home Birthing
All the same but different, these videos provide clues as to the workings of a home birthing process while revealing how disparate their nature is—how much more gentle the process is—from hospital birthing. Vaccine Ingredients - A Comprehensive Guide
This link from is embedded in the text above and is one that I feel too strongly about to not call out a second time. This link provides copious information about the ingredients, or "adjuvants," found in modern-day vaccines. It provides a range of data about specific ingredients, how the ingredients interact with the body, and, mathematically (via FDA declared toxicity levels versus ppb levels of the substances as found in vaccines), how harmful these "harmless" substances actually are. (See also: Unvaccinated Populations Are Healthier Than the Vaccinated)

Touching: The Human Significance of the Skin by Ashley Montagu
The value of love, affection, warmth, and tactile interaction (including breast-feeding) between mother and child immediately at birth and, at the least, in a child's earliest years cannot be overstated. Touching does an outstanding job of making this point clear through the utilization of clinical experiments (both animal and human), subjective experience, and studies done on cultures ranging from the first-world to seemingly stone-age indigenous.

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