Thursday, November 24, 2016

TXT MSG: “You’re Dumped.”

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

I once overheard a woman complaining to her neighbor. The way I could hear this woman belting out her woes from 150 feet away, it seems to me that she wasn’t very worried about maintaining her privacy.

And why would she be concerned with her personal issues being overheard? Self-sustaining victims typically aren’t.

Of the conversation, this is what I picked up:

“He always has his face in his phone! …I was out driving to [indiscernible] and he sent me a text message that said: [indiscernible]…

“I mean, really!? What kind of man are you!?”

I cannot say what words filled in the “[indiscernible]” blanks. But it doesn’t matter in that specifics are irrelevant. What is relevant are the underlying themes.

We’re all aware of how text messaging has enabled our society to take a turn for the worst by allowing us to text important messages in order to avoid uncomfortable feelings and face-to-face contact.

TXT MSG: You’re dumped.

Let’s take a closer look at what’s happening here. I will continue on with a breakdown of the above incident, but I’d ask you to consider, with brutal honesty, how this may apply to your own life. The woman’s words are meant as a springboard for self-healing, not as an open door for scorn, self-righteousness, and so on.

“What Kind of Man Are You!?”

The ranting woman was so certain that the guy on the other end of the phone was at fault. And, you know, if I were to do as she was and focus solely on her physical experience, then I would have to agree—that guy must be a total a-hole.

But, of course, I have no interest in judging the guy and am much more inclined to consider how the woman’s experience “out there” mirrored her unaddressed and imbalanced experience “in here.”

After the guy said something she didn’t take very kindly to, she said bitterly to her neighbor but as if to the guy himself: “What kind of man are you!?”

Perhaps the better question for the woman to have asked is: “What kind of woman am I?”

By raving to her neighbor, the woman revealed to the world that she believes herself to be a helpless victim. How can I say this? Because people who don’t see themselves as victims neither complain to others (or themselves) about their life discomforts, nor do they choose the other pole of trying to avoid their discomforts completely by covering them with a “life is rainbows and gumdrops” facade.

If the woman wasn’t a self-affirming victim, her neighbor would have had little if any part in what had occurred. Why? Because the woman would have stood up for herself. She would have commanded what she wanted up front—respect—and thus proven to herself that she’s worthy of it. But she didn’t do this. She instead resisted the truth of her discomfort—that she needs to personally stand up for herself in order to claim herself worthy of respect—and then later on tried to prove to her neighbor why she’s didn’t get respect but should have.

Although this incident I’d witnessed had appeared in this particular fashion, it’s not all that different from the instances that so many people in today’s “civilized” world regularly go through; that is, that so many people regularly put themselves through.

Yes, sure, maybe a wife or husband or friend or great aunt thrice removed has some inner garbage causing them to dump their hurt on other people via heartless text messages. But more importantly, especially when it comes to relationships where these similar instances come up over and over and over again, what is it about people who receive these messages that recurrently attract them to the same hurtful experiences?

If you find yourself in this boat, you may find it worth your while to get out a pen and paper and figure out your role. Whatever you’ve said about the other person, turn it around on yourself. Also consider what you’re trying to get, something of which you will not know you are trying to get until you inquire. This could be respect, validation, approval, etc.; there could be a mirror of your father’s behavior and you perceive and “accept” the trouble spot as “unconditional love”; and so forth.

How will you know you’re on the correct path?
  1. You’ll see that what you blamed on others begins with you.
  2. You’ll be both amazed and horrified.
  3. As you change yourself, you’ll find that the daily experience that meets you in the external world will change as well.

“He Always Has His Face In His Phone!”

The raving woman was so ticked off in part because the guy “always has his face in his phone.”

What is evident in this is that the guy is addicted. Which leads to 2 questions, both of which have answers that may surprise you:
  1. What is the cause of addiction?
  2. To what is the guy addicted?
If you have any conventional definitions of what the cause of addiction is, you can forget about them. These ideas and beliefs (ex: “it’s a genetic predisposition”) are crafted and reinforced by a society that refuses to face the truth. Hence, why addiction resolution is infrequent.

Addiction is the behavior people take on when they are disconnected from themselves, when they see life as meaningless and themselves as worthless and helpless. People become addicted (to cell phones, alcoholism, food, etc. because they subconsciously feel a ginormous void within themselves. They wish not to face the trouble spots in their external experience, either not knowing how to deal with them or not wanting to deal with them, and so distract themselves by hiding away in the gray-area netherworld in between “in here” and “out there.”

As for what the guy is addicted to, yes, sure, his cell phone. But far more importantly he’s addicted to his lowly self-beliefs, his fears of being candid with the woman, and, we could only imagine, a whole host of other inner garbage.

But we mustn’t forget about the mirror aspect. It wouldn’t be right to point out the guy’s imbalanced ways as though there’s nothing in it for the woman—of course there is.

Clearly, as revealed by his phone fixation, the guy is an “avoider.” Which is important to see for the reflected implication for the woman.

  1. What is the woman avoiding?
  2. To what is the woman addicted?
Recall, the woman was not talking to the man but instead shouting her predicament at her neighbor. Which is to say that she is also an avoider, avoiding talking truth face-to-face with the man. Seeing it in this light, they’re not so much different, are they?

When we’re willing to face our shit, we face it at its source—within—and, if necessary, at its immediate external reflection—in the woman’s case, with the man himself. We wouldn’t rant to our neighbor about it, placing all sorts of blame and pretending we’re helpless victims in dire need of an external savior.

As for what the woman is addicted to—think about it for a minute… She was making herself a victim. Indeed, she was actively trying to prove that she is a victim. Which isn’t some freak thing that people occasionally do. It’s a behavior consistent with a thoroughly-embedded internal program. Meaning: The woman has done this or similar very many times before. Meaning: The woman is addicted to her pain because her pain allows her to “prove” that she is, in “fact,” a helpless victim in need of a savior as defined by her beliefs and fears.

The Parental Connection

One other critical piece of awareness we need to see here, one that is, at least in my own experience, vital to successfully understanding self and other, is recognizing the parent-child connection to suffering.

Since the nature of physical life is “learning through reflection,” until healing takes place, we are all unconsciously attracted to others who reflect our inner distortions—these distortions coming primarily from our parents.

In the overarching example, some parental reflections may be observed as follows:

As a child, the woman likely had a father who was also an avoider. He didn’t face his problems head on—i.e.: rather than working troubles out with his wife/her mother—he hid in drinking, his work, or any other thing. He played aloof in order to draw attention to himself in attempt to “prove” to himself that he is worthy of that attention. Similarly, the woman’s mother would have offered the puzzle-piece reflection of the woman’s father.

Knowing no different as a child, the woman had perceived all these distortions as “what ‘unconditional love’ is.” This subconscious accumulation of false beliefs and fears are now what she unwittingly attracts to herself and is attracted to. No matter the pain, no matter the suffering.

You As You

If you find yourself in any similar situation(s), you would do well to ask yourself: What do I really want? What do I really need? What lesson(s) is my soul guiding me toward by means of this unpleasant experience?

Answering shallowly out of the habits and warped perception of broken programming, you may jump to statements of blame and condemnation. I just want my husband to respect me. I wish my wife would stop treating me like a baby. I wish my friend would take the hint that I’m uncomfortable with his behaviors. I wish my son would listen to me.

But what you must do here is take responsibility for your own internal garbage. Because what you truly want has nothing to do with blame or condemnation. What you truly want doesn’t even have anything to do directly with the person you’re pointing a finger at.

What you truly want is love, approval, validation, respect, and so forth—from yourself, to yourself.

Meaning: You need to face you’re crap. You are your own savior. You are the giver and the receiver of whatever it is you truly want and need.

If someone else could save you, they’d have done it by now. But they can't, and therefore won't. You have to save yourself.

It's why others are here as others, and why you are here as you.

Monday, November 21, 2016

How To Remove False Beliefs and Fears

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

When it comes to the process of self-healing, people are often told to let go of old beliefs and fears.

This sounds like a great idea, but how does one let go of mental constructs? It’s not like someone is being told to throw out molding food. In this blog post, the “how” (that I personally use) is what I will provide for you.


The most vital determinant of whether letting go will occur or not is your willingness to let go.

Which one of the following 5 items do you align with?
  1. I don’t want to let go.
  2. I pretend I want to let go.
  3. I think I want let go.
  4. I want to let go but I’m going to hang on a little bit while trying to change and see what happens.
  5. I am committed to letting go of all my “comforts” such as “knowing,” “having,” “who I am,” etc. and willingly step into a space of uncertainty, vulnerability, and impersonality.
If you picked #5, read on. If you picked any of #’s 1-4, you’re more than welcome to read on, but I’m not sure there’s any point. Because looking within and resolving issues is sort of like waking up inside a burning house—you’re on the second floor, the fire has taken over the first floor, and so no matter how you try to get out the potential for discomfort is very high. For some, wishing never to have woken from sleep is the preferred option.


When you first set off on the journey of self-healing, you will find it useful to set intentions. Maybe you speak them aloud, maybe you write them down, maybe you put them on a sticky note on your bathroom mirror and reread them every time nature calls. Do whatever feels appropriate to you.

Since what is perceived “out there” is a reflection of what is happening “in here,” by setting a heartfelt intention you tell Life what it is you want and Life sees to it that you get what you need to accomplish your goal.

As you progress, you’ll find that you move deeper into the flow of things, at which point your intention-making process may change. You might just make a simple statement to Self, God, Creator, Life (choose your favorite) about what you’d like, or maybe you need only move your attention in the desired direction, and things will be set into motion.

Think of it like you’re boating down a river. Your initial intentions got you into the boat and into the water. Once you’re centered and oriented, you need only row a little this way or that way in the direction of interest. You come to live your intentions spontaneously.

Meditation and Mantra

In Western society we’ve effectively been taught that we are our thoughts. “I think therefore I am.” And, indeed, we only seem to notice the mind due to its activity; when the mind is quiet, it’s as if we go temporarily unconscious.

So the advice is to meditate regularly, to mindfully merge with the silence. This practice is critical to noticing that there is, in fact, space between each of your thoughts, that you are not your thoughts, and that you thus do not have to pay the Incessant Chatterer any attention. This enables you to gradually step out of all your unconscious-seeming-conscious life experiences by denying energy to your faulty programming. Only from this space can you make truly conscious choices.

As meditation is basically a thought monitor and soul awareness clarifier, the practice aids tremendously in bringing to light false beliefs and fears and reveals the inanity of them. In time, much of this nonsense will float away on its own due to your lack of attentive energy for support.

Mantra is also great tool for both mindfulness and self-realization. It is useful for mindfulness because it’s you deciding the thought you want to have and then repeating it a billion plus a billion times to the disregard of all others. The benefits toward self-realization come when the mantra you repeat is directed toward your higher spiritual good, toward God.

Perhaps the most powerful form of mantra are those written in Sanskrit or a Sanskrit-derived language. Such languages have been very spirit-consciously created and thus carry a power that, by the vibrations of the sounds themselves, naturally resonate with the highest and deepest.

Statements of Release

With the above foundational chunks in place, and with time and practice, you will become steadily mindful of any thoughts to arise. Assuming you’ve been doing the other necessary self-help work to understand the varying ways in which issues present themselves, you’ll find it increasingly easy to recognize what programming any given thought implies. To which the question comes: What is there to do about these thoughts, if anything?

Use an I willingly release… statement. Or, if needed, use 20. To explain what I mean, put yourself in the following situation:

Suppose that every day you bring the mail pile into your house and separate it into smaller piles, one for each addressee. (If you live alone, pretend you have 4 cats that also get mail.) While this may appear as kind or efficient or whatever, the deeper concern is whether or not you are being robotic about it. Why don’t you ever put the mail pile on a table and let people sort it out on their own? (Yes, your cats are that capable.)

With some introspection (which, with practice, can be done very quickly), you might realize that you sort the mail because it’s what your dad does or it’s what your mom told you is “the right way.” You’d thus become aware of non-self-integrity issues such as a false sense of responsibility, a false notion of what is “right,” and a lack of free will.

A matter like this could be more troublesome at times when, say, you’re in a hurry to get somewhere. You notice the mail on the way out and decide to quickly bring it inside. But rather than tossing it on the table in a pile and running, you’re strongly drawn to sort it out. You’re stressing because you’re late, and now you’re actively increasing the very stress and lateness you wish you could avoid.

On one hand, just noticing the issue could be enough to clear a path for conscious action in the future. But perhaps not. If no, you could then might make release statements such as:
  • I willingly release the belief that it’s right to sort the mail when I bring it in.
  • I willingly release the belief that it’s my responsibility to sort the mail.
  • I willingly release the fear of being disapproved of by my father for not sorting the mail, for tossing it in a heap on the table.
  • I willingly release the fear of being talked down to by my parents for not being perfect.

While this scenario may seem trivial or silly, it serves two important functions: one is that it provides a clear, conscious path to letting go of old junk, and the other is its utility in developing and maintaining the vigilance required for thorough self-healing. Please don’t think any issue is “too small” where this self-work is concerned. This is especially true if you’re on the path of awakening. Everything has to go.

Two semi-alternatives to the above release statement are:
  • I willingly release the programming in my consciousness that causes me to…
  • I willingly release the need to…

If you were to notice a repetitious negative behavior and not want to get all into it right then and figure it out, you could use one of the above two statements. They don’t necessarily clear anything out, but they do bring more awareness to the subject and get the mind to begin churning things up for healing.

The overall consequence of this work should be a positive change of thought and therefore action. If you find the same junk recycling itself, then you’re going to have to look at the situation from a different perspective. You could still have other mental (and/or emotional) attachments; maybe there’s a childhood trauma being triggered; or you may just need to accept the thoughts as is, be patient, and let time and continued self-healing work do it’s magic.


When issues go away, the thoughts and actions related to them no longer enter your awareness or experience. Someone else could say or do something that leans your awareness toward the old programming, but you simply won’t have the interest to entertain it.

If this is not the case and junk does recur, or if you see that an issue is too deep to be handled with a few thoughts of release, I recommend writing the issue down. This works well for thoughts and actions alike. You could do this in a “Why do I…?” form. For instance, “Why do I feel the need to constantly nod my head and make statements of agreement with people who talk with me, even when I don’t agree with them?”

Journaling is a most useful tool. The ego mind is very sly and can easily evade key details to the resolution of moderate to complex issues when only the mind is used. Physicalizing the mind’s contents is thus a huge aid and should always be an option.

Release through Activity

A very physical way of releasing old beliefs and fears is to act contrary to or in spite of them; see how much substance they actually carry.

And this is not to say that you must become what you disbelieve or fear. The point is to entertain the different, unknown, and feared with an open mind. Instead of outright and unwavering rejection, try to see things from the inside so you can get a more reasonable perspective.

Read a book that disagrees with your childhood upbringing, visit a place you know your friends would be in an uproar if you went, say something silly to a very serious person, don’t wear deodorant for a week, or whatever. These are but a few examples. (Just be sure to work with the additional junk that will be churned up in the process.)

Mental processing can be amazingly useful, but the intellect can only take you so far. Sometimes you have to take action and allow the programming to fall away of its own accord.

Which, if old programming does go, is not to be mistaken as meaning that you’ve lost something. Programming is always garbage. If you still prefer what you’d preferred prior to reading the book or skipping the deodorant, fine. Assuming the programming was erased, at least you can go back to the old as a freer, more compassionate and rational person.

Potential Pitfalls

Potential traps generally appear either when willingness lessens or when self-awareness has not yet developed sufficiently enough. Here are 5 of them:
  1. The first possible hazard may come when using mantra or, as is sometimes synonymized in the West, affirmations. They are different. Mantra involves soul-resonating, ancient and sacred tones, while affirmations are mere mental repetitions of phrases that may be quite insignificant. Be that what it may, focused mental energy is still focused mental energy.

    If you notice you have trouble making money, you may decide to repeat, “I’m now making $1000 dollars per day.” If you’re not into this self-help work as a means of self-realization and don’t wish to repeat a Sanskrit mantra, that’s fine. But you need, then, to be considerate of the practicality of what you’re requesting.

    What are your motives? Are you seeing any raise in your income? Are you making any effort toward that goal? Are you using the mantra/affirmation as an unconscious means of avoiding facing a childhood trauma regarding money and lack?

    If used correctly and with proper timing, even an affirmation like the one just mentioned can do you wonders because it focuses your mind. But if you’re still bogged do with all sorts of negative, contrary beliefs and fears, you could do the affirmation until the day you die and not see positive results.

  2. This second possible pitfall is about thinking yourself to be making positive change only to be moving laterally.

    An example of this could be one in which you’d spent your life doing things your parents’ way, realize you’re doing them for approval rather than in integrity, and then decide to act differently or even contrarily. On one hand, yes, this could be a very good thing. But if your guard is down, the change you make could be more an act of defiance, or rejection. In which case, even if the old programming were to be removed, it would be instantly being replaced with new programming. Again, programming is not your friend.

  3. Another snare lies in the sources of the supposed “new” that you use to help you blow up the old. This trouble spot is likely far less common if you’ve got the willingness and/or awareness, but it’s worth mentioning anyway in the cases when either one slackens off for some reason or when fear really strengthens its grip.

    This is about accepting something that deep down you know is going to prove your old ways “right.” This would be like you being a democrat who goes to a democrat politician to ask what the best political party is. This sounds quite foolish, I think, and if you’ve read this far, perhaps unnecessary to say. But I’ve seen these things done plenty of times. Hopefully you’ll have more sense and self-respect.

  4. This next one can be summed up in the justification, “That’s not part of my life anymore.”

    Keep in mind that wherever you go, there your programming is and will remain until cleared. Revisiting the sort-the-mail example, you could live 4000 miles from your long-dead parents’ home yet continue to play out the same drama. Again: vigilance. Seemingly good, bad, right, wrong, or irrelevant—question everything. Just because your life circumstances have altered in appearance doesn’t mean you’ve begun a new life.

  5. Lastly… Maybe the only real obstacle is your belief that you have a certain obstacle; that if you stopped paying it so much attention it would dissolve on its own. After all, energy is energy: that to which it flows, grows.

Last Words

The key in all of this is to stay present, focused, aware, observing, neutral. Let your experiences play out without becoming them. Your programming cannot perpetuate if energy isn’t supplied for its reinforcement.

Gradually or quickly, your negativity in all its varying forms—even those forms you may have labeled “positivity”—will either pass away naturally or give you the opportunity to see them and consciously choose to let go or hang on. Sometimes letting go means you have to merely make an “I willingly release…” statement; sometimes it could mean you have to leave a 20-year relationship.

The processing is going to be unique for everyone, but there are a number of basic means any given person can use to make the processing easier. May what I’ve provided you with here help you to ease and clarify your path forward—into your own Being.

Friday, November 18, 2016

Hate Does Not Exist

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

No, don’t worry. I’m not going to feed you some New Age-y “there’s only love” nonsense. That is totally not my style.

As usual, I’m going to rip apart misconceptions in order to reveal an immediate yet oft-hidden truth. So-called “hate” is not what you think.

Indeed, hate doesn’t exist. Sure, maybe as a concept, a word, that points to something else. But hate in and of itself, no, it’s empty.

A Self-Experiment

I have a task for you. I would like you to take a few moments to sit still, close your eyes, and tune out the world. Then I want you to bring to your awareness to someone or something you hate—another person would be preferable. (As we just passed through election season, this should not be difficult!)

For some of you New Age and religious folks, I’m going to be blunt about this: It is very likely that you hate at least one person or one thing. Cut the holier-than-thou avoidance crap of, “I love everyone. I just really strongly dislike,” and, “All is love.” Get over yourself. You’re a human being having a human experience.

Anyway… Who’s the first person that comes to mind? Even if it’s your spouse, the person you claim to be in love with forever and ever, just let it be. It’s okay. Go with it. You don’t have to tell anyone, there are probably a billion others who would have the same thought as you, and one of them could very well be your spouse. This is not about a guilt trip. Remember your goal, here: Truth.

Once you have this person in mind, think of something about them that majorly tweaks you. Can you, somewhere within whatever comes up, find hate?

“I hate my boss.” You might say. “He’s a callous son of a bitch. He pushes his employees around. He micromanages and always wants more. He makes 14 million dollars a year while all the workers make minimum wage—we're the very ones who work our asses off so that he can have a business at all! I hate him!”

Have you found hate yet?

How about now?


No, you haven’t. Because it’s not possible. You may have found what you think is hate, what you believe hate feels like, but that’s not it. Right now you’re seeing and feeling what you call hate but then stopping with that concept. It’s like you see a wooden guidepost to a hairier path, get tweaked by what the guidepost says, and then blame it, punch it, and get a splinter from it… Never bothering to take out the splinter… Not even before you circle around to the same guidepost only to punch it again… And again… And again…

The First Layer of “Hate”: The Surface of Things “Out There”

What most people call “hate” doesn’t actually exist. This is regardless of form—hateful thoughts, hate crimes, or whatever.

What does exist, and what we need to address as individuals, are the “hairier paths” to which our apparent hatred is pointing. Let’s look at the above example of a person’s thoughts about his or her boss:

I hate my boss. He’s a callous son of a bitch. He pushes his employees around. He micromanages and always wants more. He makes 14 million dollars a year while all the workers make minimum wage—we're the very ones who work our asses off so that he can have a productive business at all! I hate him!

The word hate is in here twice. Let’s basically forget about both. They’re not concrete enough to be useful. It sort of helps to know they’re there, but such is just a matter of openness; many people thoroughly avoid saying “I hate” as a means of self-protection from their own negative feelings.

So there’s something perceived to be hate. We need to understand what this supposed hate is in reference to because it’s neither what we think it is nor does it just simply happen.

Which leads to the question: What is tangible in the specific issues presented? Callousness, micromanagement, greed, etc.

We can then question each as to how they affect us and why we think they might affect us in such way.

The Second Layer of “Hate”: Rejection of Inner Feelings

Let’s use micromanagement as an example.

You claim to hate your boss because (remember, hate doesn’t just happen) he micromanages you. How does this make you feel? As though you’re not good enough? That you’re unable to think for yourself and make your own intelligent decisions? It makes you frustrated, angry, and resentful? And you blame him for these woes, do you not?

Do you see what I’m getting at? You don’t hate your boss. Rather, you feel frustration and anger and resentment, and you blame your boss for causing the churning up of painful issues that are already within you. Unless you want to use a one-word cover for your personal issues while keeping up the finger of blame, there’s no hate anywhere in this.

“But it’s just not right,” you may clamor. Right or wrong makes no difference. The fact is: it’s happening. And you’re suffering like mad and blaming someone else when you are the cause.

The Third Layer of “Hate”: The Childhood Authority Figure(s)

Once acknowledging such a fundamental truth, we can crawl further down the rabbit hole. To do so, we could inquire as to why we’ve attracted the given experience. A question like this is particularly appropriate for those who have had several jobs and have noticed how most if not all of their bosses had been micromanagers.

This may be rationalized by saying something such as, “Managers are just crappy like that nowadays,” or, “It’s my bad luck.” Problem is, excuses are typically as empty as the idea of hatred is.

You’ve had, say, three bosses who were all micromanagers. Think about this for a minute… Does the essence of micromanagement by an authority figure remind you of anybody? Perhaps when you were a child? A certain pivotal figure in your life from whom you’d learned a great deal about “how life is”…?

And do you suspect that maybe, just maybe, life has drawn you and any less-than-respectful bosses together in order for you to see the childhood authority figure’s junk programming running within you so that you could, with an adult mind, see it, learn from it, and heal it?

The Fourth (and Final) Layer of “Hate”: Core Issues

We’ve seen that when our programming is triggered we drop into negativity. So too have we seen that we’re playing out the same programming we’d played out toward a primary childhood figure of authority. But there’s something else: the lowest depths of this inner rabbit hole are related to our core life struggles.

Continuing with the example: By the fact that you carry a raging sense of all-encompassing and -enshrouding hate and blame, the implication is that you’re doing little if anything to improve your situation. You could get a different job, you could stand up for yourself, you could become a cave-dwelling ascetic. In other words, you could choose to take responsibility, to do any of about 83 million other things than the very same, one, suffering-inducing thing you’ve been doing for the last 5, 15, or 60 years.

Why don’t you get a different job? Why don’t you stand up for yourself? Why don’t you change your life path altogether?

Welcome to the home of core issues.

Self-rejection. Fear of abandonment. Worthlessness. Helplessness. Hopelessness. Uselessness. Too stupid. Too Weak. Inadequate. Fear of punishment. Fear of loss. Fear of rejection. Fear of criticism. Victim mentality. Shame. Guilt. Invisibility. Insecurity. Childhood trauma. Fear of disapproval. Fear of invalidation.

I’m sure I’ve missed a few and not all will necessarily apply to you, but I’ve no doubt you’ll find something pertinent in there.

As the name suggests, core issues are a really big deal. They are the negative, and typically unconscious, drivers of the majority of suffering and inhibition a person experiences in life. If you want to see your suffering come to an end, you must confront these issues.

A Note on Self-Hate

While this writing has been focused on hate directed “out there,” it’s quite common for people to carry hatred toward themselves.

If you notice the latter in yourself, your work is basically the same as above. Start by tossing out the belief that you hate yourself, because you don’t. Then see what triggers you (ex: unhappiness), see how you feel about it (anger, depression, etc.), and then work to understand how you may have learned it (ex: a parent), what you’ve been taught about it (ex: “unhappiness is bad and should be avoided”), and what negativity is at its core (ex: self-rejection out of fear of disapproval for not being happy).

Home Sweet Home

Now that you’ve taken a brief tour around the inner-self rabbit hole, what do you think? Does it feel like home yet!?

Not quite?

Do the work and it will. Slowly but surely. Because the truth is that you are home. It’s just that a load of garbage has accumulated so it’s hard to find a place to sit or the location of the windows.

But thankfully you don’t have to wait until “garbage night” to take out the trash. In life, every moment is garbage night. Toss it, toss it, and toss it. And whenever you find a window, let the light shine in! …And then keep tossing!

An Alternate Perspective to Hatred

Even if we assume hatred does exist as most people currently think of it, it is a really foolish thing to bother one’s self with. “I hate this, and I hate that. I hate him, and I hate her,” people vent. If you find yourself in any remotely similar position—indeed, if you feel hatred toward anything whatsoever—I would like you to consider on what your hatred is founded… I’ll give you a hint: It’s a sand heap that’s already being washed back into the ocean even as you stressfully effort to maintain it.

Here’s the thing: We’ve been taught since time immemorial to love what is good and hate what is bad, to love what is right and hate what is wrong. But all these supposed goods and bads, rights and wrongs are based solely on individual and collective perception. Which means that they’re all based, usually, not on inner wisdom, on Truth, but on ideas originating from “out there” somewhere and somewhen in an ever-changeful and often very confused world.

Beliefs might only be said to be “true” when the setting of life suggests them to be so. Most of the time, however, beliefs are false because the settings in which those beliefs seemed true (or at least appropriate) are no longer present.

It therefore makes a lot of sense for us to regularly evaluate the legitimacy of our beliefs and let go of the ones that no longer apply. Strangely, this type of sensibility has not yet been developed in most humans as worthy of having. For, in fact, the majority of people hold on to their beliefs for dear life, instead preferring cognitive dissonant “knowing”—our world doesn’t match what’s going on in our minds, but, hey, at least we’re “comfortable”… just like the rest of the herd…

Folks, do yourselves the favor of reassessing your beliefs and releasing those that either seem to no longer apply to life or which you'd taken on just because someone told you something was true. And then release every other belief. Because, ultimately, every belief is false.

Belief creates separation, separation drives fear, fear drives what we’ve come to call “hatred.” The result is a manipulated perception that reinforces the apparent actuality of the same beliefs that had created the whole mess to begin with.

Your beliefs of this or that merely inhibit.

By contrast, the Truth just is, now. It stands completely for itself, by itself.

The only thing any of us need to do is see it, and hatred will disappear like it had never existed.

Tuesday, November 8, 2016

"Awareness of Truth Ends..."

The Roof Is Leaking: A Rant On Religious Corruption and Misguidance

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

Now the end of the commandment is charity out of a pure heart, and of a good conscience, and of faith unfeigned: From which some having swerved have turned aside unto vain jangling; Desiring to be teachers of the law; understanding neither what they say, nor whereof they affirm.
--1 Timothy 1:5-7
Would you hire a roofer who’s known to do a half-assed job? Who’s going to suck thousands of dollars out of your wallet—the money you’d spent so much time and energy to attain—only to leave you with rainwaters pouring into your house?

Then why would you spend a lifetime dumping out your wallet, time, and life energy on returning to the same corrupt religion—a religion that lures you in with promises of salvation by means of fear and the instillation of guilt and shame, forcing you to look outward to them to be saved rather than within?

Indeed, they’ve got you nailed for that very reason. They tell you that only they have the truth. You can’t access it yourself. You’re a worthless sinner. Rightfully so you should live in guilt and shame.

These are the very tools they wield against you because they know such things prevent people from looking within—who would dare acknowledge such inner filth? And so you look without—Save me! Save me! I’ll give you all my power, my money, anything you want! Just so I don’t have to face this blackness inside me!

They tell you you’re guilty, you’re a sinner, you were born deserving to be punished. And you don’t even question. You don’t even look within to see how true it really is—or isn’t. The very ones who have more money and material riches than God while half the world is dying of famine and disease; who often have clergy members up to their necks in pedophilia, alcoholism, gluttony and obesity, mismanaged anger, and sexual repression.

Folks, who’s guilty here? Generally speaking, you’ve got those in the lower ranks who feel overwhelmed with shame and so must necessarily live out its negative consequences and pass it on to others through shameful action, and you’ve got the higher-ups who live in shamelessness and are all too willing to deceitfully drive the nails further into the innocent and unsuspecting.

People fuck with the lives of others for one of two reasons: Either, one, they began with good intentions and now don’t know the difference because they’ve been led astray, deeply hurt within, and reactively behave per their negative programming, or, two, they hadn’t cared from the beginning and will stop at nothing to take advantage of you. In the first case, it’s blind leading the blind; in the second, it’s straight up hatred.

This is the shelter you’ve been seeking. I advise you to take in the full scope of its purported integrity.

Consider that your whole life—your beliefs, perception, family, ethics, etc.—even what may come in the afterlife—it all revolves to a greater or lesser degree around your religion’s dogma of “How It Is.”

Yes, some clergy members could be considered “good” (whatever “good” might mean). But clergy are also human beings like everyone else, and are just as susceptible to wrong thinking and doing as everyone else—perhaps even more so because their training and unconscious personal notions of becoming someone’s “savior” create in them delusions from the get-go.

So, too, might some practices be seen as “good.” But what, really, is “good” considering the negative orientation of many of those creating and perpetuating the practices? What, really, is “good” other than the perspective of the beholder as based on what these external sources have threateningly impressed in you as “truth”?

But even assuming there are some truly good clergy or practices here or there, so too are there a few dry spaces under a poorly laid roof. The house will still be destroyed and its inhabitants left empty.

“Take care then how you hear, for to the one who has, more will be given, and from the one who has not, even what he thinks that he has will be taken away.”
--Luke 8:18
You see, the problem is systemic—the top is highly defective and so all the water must necessarily trickle, if not pour, down into the lowest levels.

Meaning: The whole thing must be torn down and redone or simply abandoned altogether.

Unless you prefer shame, guilt, and powerlessness. Then nothing has to change at all.