Monday, November 21, 2016

How To Remove False Beliefs and Fears

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness



When it comes to the process of self-healing, people are often told to let go of old beliefs and fears.

This sounds like a great idea, but how does one let go of mental constructs? It’s not like someone is being told to throw out molding food. In this blog post, the “how” (that I personally use) is what I will provide for you.

Willingness

The most vital determinant of whether letting go will occur or not is your willingness to let go.

Which one of the following 5 items do you align with?
  1. I don’t want to let go.
  2. I pretend I want to let go.
  3. I think I want let go.
  4. I want to let go but I’m going to hang on a little bit while trying to change and see what happens.
  5. I am committed to letting go of all my “comforts” such as “knowing,” “having,” “who I am,” etc. and willingly step into a space of uncertainty, vulnerability, and impersonality.
If you picked #5, read on. If you picked any of #’s 1-4, you’re more than welcome to read on, but I’m not sure there’s any point. Because looking within and resolving issues is sort of like waking up inside a burning house—you’re on the second floor, the fire has taken over the first floor, and so no matter how you try to get out the potential for discomfort is very high. For some, wishing never to have woken from sleep is the preferred option.

Intention

When you first set off on the journey of self-healing, you will find it useful to set intentions. Maybe you speak them aloud, maybe you write them down, maybe you put them on a sticky note on your bathroom mirror and reread them every time nature calls. Do whatever feels appropriate to you.

Since what is perceived “out there” is a reflection of what is happening “in here,” by setting a heartfelt intention you tell Life what it is you want and Life sees to it that you get what you need to accomplish your goal.

As you progress, you’ll find that you move deeper into the flow of things, at which point your intention-making process may change. You might just make a simple statement to Self, God, Creator, Life (choose your favorite) about what you’d like, or maybe you need only move your attention in the desired direction, and things will be set into motion.

Think of it like you’re boating down a river. Your initial intentions got you into the boat and into the water. Once you’re centered and oriented, you need only row a little this way or that way in the direction of interest. You come to live your intentions spontaneously.

Meditation and Mantra

In Western society we’ve effectively been taught that we are our thoughts. “I think therefore I am.” And, indeed, we only seem to notice the mind due to its activity; when the mind is quiet, it’s as if we go temporarily unconscious.

So the advice is to meditate regularly, to mindfully merge with the silence. This practice is critical to noticing that there is, in fact, space between each of your thoughts, that you are not your thoughts, and that you thus do not have to pay the Incessant Chatterer any attention. This enables you to gradually step out of all your unconscious-seeming-conscious life experiences by denying energy to your faulty programming. Only from this space can you make truly conscious choices.

As meditation is basically a thought monitor and soul awareness clarifier, the practice aids tremendously in bringing to light false beliefs and fears and reveals the inanity of them. In time, much of this nonsense will float away on its own due to your lack of attentive energy for support.

Mantra is also great tool for both mindfulness and self-realization. It is useful for mindfulness because it’s you deciding the thought you want to have and then repeating it a billion plus a billion times to the disregard of all others. The benefits toward self-realization come when the mantra you repeat is directed toward your higher spiritual good, toward God.

Perhaps the most powerful form of mantra are those written in Sanskrit or a Sanskrit-derived language. Such languages have been very spirit-consciously created and thus carry a power that, by the vibrations of the sounds themselves, naturally resonate with the highest and deepest.

Statements of Release

With the above foundational chunks in place, and with time and practice, you will become steadily mindful of any thoughts to arise. Assuming you’ve been doing the other necessary self-help work to understand the varying ways in which issues present themselves, you’ll find it increasingly easy to recognize what programming any given thought implies. To which the question comes: What is there to do about these thoughts, if anything?

Use an I willingly release… statement. Or, if needed, use 20. To explain what I mean, put yourself in the following situation:

Suppose that every day you bring the mail pile into your house and separate it into smaller piles, one for each addressee. (If you live alone, pretend you have 4 cats that also get mail.) While this may appear as kind or efficient or whatever, the deeper concern is whether or not you are being robotic about it. Why don’t you ever put the mail pile on a table and let people sort it out on their own? (Yes, your cats are that capable.)

With some introspection (which, with practice, can be done very quickly), you might realize that you sort the mail because it’s what your dad does or it’s what your mom told you is “the right way.” You’d thus become aware of non-self-integrity issues such as a false sense of responsibility, a false notion of what is “right,” and a lack of free will.

A matter like this could be more troublesome at times when, say, you’re in a hurry to get somewhere. You notice the mail on the way out and decide to quickly bring it inside. But rather than tossing it on the table in a pile and running, you’re strongly drawn to sort it out. You’re stressing because you’re late, and now you’re actively increasing the very stress and lateness you wish you could avoid.

On one hand, just noticing the issue could be enough to clear a path for conscious action in the future. But perhaps not. If no, you could then might make release statements such as:
  • I willingly release the belief that it’s right to sort the mail when I bring it in.
  • I willingly release the belief that it’s my responsibility to sort the mail.
  • I willingly release the fear of being disapproved of by my father for not sorting the mail, for tossing it in a heap on the table.
  • I willingly release the fear of being talked down to by my parents for not being perfect.

While this scenario may seem trivial or silly, it serves two important functions: one is that it provides a clear, conscious path to letting go of old junk, and the other is its utility in developing and maintaining the vigilance required for thorough self-healing. Please don’t think any issue is “too small” where this self-work is concerned. This is especially true if you’re on the path of awakening. Everything has to go.

Two semi-alternatives to the above release statement are:
  • I willingly release the programming in my consciousness that causes me to…
  • I willingly release the need to…

If you were to notice a repetitious negative behavior and not want to get all into it right then and figure it out, you could use one of the above two statements. They don’t necessarily clear anything out, but they do bring more awareness to the subject and get the mind to begin churning things up for healing.

The overall consequence of this work should be a positive change of thought and therefore action. If you find the same junk recycling itself, then you’re going to have to look at the situation from a different perspective. You could still have other mental (and/or emotional) attachments; maybe there’s a childhood trauma being triggered; or you may just need to accept the thoughts as is, be patient, and let time and continued self-healing work do it’s magic.

Journaling

When issues go away, the thoughts and actions related to them no longer enter your awareness or experience. Someone else could say or do something that leans your awareness toward the old programming, but you simply won’t have the interest to entertain it.

If this is not the case and junk does recur, or if you see that an issue is too deep to be handled with a few thoughts of release, I recommend writing the issue down. This works well for thoughts and actions alike. You could do this in a “Why do I…?” form. For instance, “Why do I feel the need to constantly nod my head and make statements of agreement with people who talk with me, even when I don’t agree with them?”

Journaling is a most useful tool. The ego mind is very sly and can easily evade key details to the resolution of moderate to complex issues when only the mind is used. Physicalizing the mind’s contents is thus a huge aid and should always be an option.

Release through Activity

A very physical way of releasing old beliefs and fears is to act contrary to or in spite of them; see how much substance they actually carry.

And this is not to say that you must become what you disbelieve or fear. The point is to entertain the different, unknown, and feared with an open mind. Instead of outright and unwavering rejection, try to see things from the inside so you can get a more reasonable perspective.

Read a book that disagrees with your childhood upbringing, visit a place you know your friends would be in an uproar if you went, say something silly to a very serious person, don’t wear deodorant for a week, or whatever. These are but a few examples. (Just be sure to work with the additional junk that will be churned up in the process.)

Mental processing can be amazingly useful, but the intellect can only take you so far. Sometimes you have to take action and allow the programming to fall away of its own accord.

Which, if old programming does go, is not to be mistaken as meaning that you’ve lost something. Programming is always garbage. If you still prefer what you’d preferred prior to reading the book or skipping the deodorant, fine. Assuming the programming was erased, at least you can go back to the old as a freer, more compassionate and rational person.

Potential Pitfalls

Potential traps generally appear either when willingness lessens or when self-awareness has not yet developed sufficiently enough. Here are 5 of them:
  1. The first possible hazard may come when using mantra or, as is sometimes synonymized in the West, affirmations. They are different. Mantra involves soul-resonating, ancient and sacred tones, while affirmations are mere mental repetitions of phrases that may be quite insignificant. Be that what it may, focused mental energy is still focused mental energy.

    If you notice you have trouble making money, you may decide to repeat, “I’m now making $1000 dollars per day.” If you’re not into this self-help work as a means of self-realization and don’t wish to repeat a Sanskrit mantra, that’s fine. But you need, then, to be considerate of the practicality of what you’re requesting.

    What are your motives? Are you seeing any raise in your income? Are you making any effort toward that goal? Are you using the mantra/affirmation as an unconscious means of avoiding facing a childhood trauma regarding money and lack?

    If used correctly and with proper timing, even an affirmation like the one just mentioned can do you wonders because it focuses your mind. But if you’re still bogged do with all sorts of negative, contrary beliefs and fears, you could do the affirmation until the day you die and not see positive results.

  2. This second possible pitfall is about thinking yourself to be making positive change only to be moving laterally.

    An example of this could be one in which you’d spent your life doing things your parents’ way, realize you’re doing them for approval rather than in integrity, and then decide to act differently or even contrarily. On one hand, yes, this could be a very good thing. But if your guard is down, the change you make could be more an act of defiance, or rejection. In which case, even if the old programming were to be removed, it would be instantly being replaced with new programming. Again, programming is not your friend.

  3. Another snare lies in the sources of the supposed “new” that you use to help you blow up the old. This trouble spot is likely far less common if you’ve got the willingness and/or awareness, but it’s worth mentioning anyway in the cases when either one slackens off for some reason or when fear really strengthens its grip.

    This is about accepting something that deep down you know is going to prove your old ways “right.” This would be like you being a democrat who goes to a democrat politician to ask what the best political party is. This sounds quite foolish, I think, and if you’ve read this far, perhaps unnecessary to say. But I’ve seen these things done plenty of times. Hopefully you’ll have more sense and self-respect.

  4. This next one can be summed up in the justification, “That’s not part of my life anymore.”

    Keep in mind that wherever you go, there your programming is and will remain until cleared. Revisiting the sort-the-mail example, you could live 4000 miles from your long-dead parents’ home yet continue to play out the same drama. Again: vigilance. Seemingly good, bad, right, wrong, or irrelevant—question everything. Just because your life circumstances have altered in appearance doesn’t mean you’ve begun a new life.

  5. Lastly… Maybe the only real obstacle is your belief that you have a certain obstacle; that if you stopped paying it so much attention it would dissolve on its own. After all, energy is energy: that to which it flows, grows.

Last Words

The key in all of this is to stay present, focused, aware, observing, neutral. Let your experiences play out without becoming them. Your programming cannot perpetuate if energy isn’t supplied for its reinforcement.

Gradually or quickly, your negativity in all its varying forms—even those forms you may have labeled “positivity”—will either pass away naturally or give you the opportunity to see them and consciously choose to let go or hang on. Sometimes letting go means you have to merely make an “I willingly release…” statement; sometimes it could mean you have to leave a 20-year relationship.

The processing is going to be unique for everyone, but there are a number of basic means any given person can use to make the processing easier. May what I’ve provided you with here help you to ease and clarify your path forward—into your own Being.

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