Saturday, September 29, 2018

Faces of a Warped Psyche:
The Victim-Perpetrator-Savior Complex

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness



When people are beaten down as children but do not heal, they develop a combination of these three distortions:
  1. Victim,
  2. Perpetrator, and
  3. Savior
Before I describe these, it’s important to define what I mean by beaten down.

Taking a Beating

On one hand, beaten down can literally mean “beaten down.” We’ve all heard stories of parents punishing their kids with anything from a slap in the face to murder. On the other hand, this same term is a reference to people who as kids hadn’t had parental motivation, support, etc.

Since these issues are so pervasive and often considered "normal," care must be taken to examine them closely. When I say “kids hadn’t had parental motivation, support, etc.” this doesn’t necessarily mean that their parents hadn’t been there to make them dinner, take them to school, and things like that. Maybe the parents had been there for these things.

In one of countless possible examples, suppose that, as a child, you'd regularly made artwork in school and had then given it to your parents. You’d gotten such a thrill out of the creation and giving: “I made this for you, Mom and Dad. I love you.” But on so many occasions, your parents had just tossed your gifts into a folder or a box (unlike your friends whose parents would hug them and then post their art on the fridge like a prize possession). Maybe you’d told your parents that you want to grow up and be an artist, only to repeatedly hear, “You’ll never make it, kid,” or, “That’s an impossible life—the starving artist,” or, “You have to be serious.”

You had dinner on the table and parents who’d never hurt you physically, but your parents had also driven into you programming of failure, of inability, of the difficulty of life in a dangerous world.

All that being said, even if these and related experiences don’t overtly resonate with you or another, due to “the way it is” here on planet Earth, we've nearly all still had to deal with the global-cultural adversity that turns creative, happy, spontaneous, and free children into numb, stiff, pained, and linear-thinking grown-ups.

Faces of a Warped Psyche

In consequence of being beaten down, there results three distortions:
  1. Victim,
  2. Perpetrator, and
  3. Savior
Let’s look at each in definition and function.

1. Victim

A person carrying the Victim distortion is usually labeled as having a “Victim mentality.” This is just as it sounds: A person believes (if unconsciously) that they’re powerless to help themselves, cannot be helped by others (short of a Savior), and are nothing more than the Victim of a cruel world for which they can do nothing to improve.

The vast majority of adults are basically overgrown children. They’ve done very little if any truly transformative psycho-emotional-spiritual healing work, and so they remain as the totality of their childhood programming in a full-grown body.

What most children learn is not, “You are free, creative, unconditionally loved and loveable, perfect human beings. The world is at your command, and you can do anything you set your heart to.”

Similar words may be spoken from time to time (likely by those who haven’t truly integrated such ideas themselves), but kids are generally placed into a highly-intellectualized education system, their creativity is mostly or completely denied, their emotions are suppressed, and their focus is directed toward survival in a money-hungry, competitive, authoritative, industrialized society. The parents of these kids have gone through the same rigmarole in families that had more or less mirrored the ruthlessness of society and world circumstances, and so they must pass on the same.

This reeks of Victimhood, and with an honest look this should be obvious.

Who is living their dreams? Who has abandoned their parents’ broken programming and distorted cultural paradigms? Who is daring to push back when religions, corporations, and governments rape the people and destroy the Earth?

Very few. Because the vast majority of people on the planet fall deeply into this category of Victimhood in myriad ways, shapes, and forms. And discomforting as it is, it’s a “comfortable discomfort,” so people do nothing. It’s easier to look away, complain, rationalize unworthiness, hang out at the bar, watch endless hours of sports, and wait for a Savior.

But guess what, folks? A Savior isn’t coming. A Savior isn’t coming—not an external one anyway—because you are your own "savior." You just don’t know it yet. But you do have Perpetrators to help you remember...

2. Perpetrators

Perpetrators are people who seek to hurt others in reaction to the unhealed pain they carry from being Victimized themselves. Everyone who has ever lived falls into this category to some degree.

Generally speaking…

At its lowest level, Perpetrator behaviors are those such as such as run-of-the-mill name-calling, blaming, cutting others off while driving, gossiping, and so on. These issues necessitate the Victimization of others and thus cause harm, but they’re comparatively mild offenses and are so common and thoroughly ingrained that most people would hardly bat an eyelash upon hearing of or being involved in such situations.

The mid-level Perpetrator may be noted as anyone who deliberately and forcefully harms another. These could be schoolyard bullies, vandals, abusers, rapists, etc. who have taken on harsher trauma and have not had adequate means by which to tone down the pain, cope with it, or heal it completely.

The highest level of Perpetrator could be called a Terrorizer. This is a person who had been severely Victimized and traumatized as a child and developed a mindset bent on the destruction of others. He or she is so psycho-emotionally rent and spiritually void that loving treatment of self and other is incomprehensible and impossible.

Terrorizers are people who must hurt others, who need to hurt others, often in vicious ways, in order to feel “good.” Though they can put on an appearance of sanity when required, they have an intensely dark side that drives them toward very negative and often bizarre behaviors. These people are psychopaths.

To point out, there also exists what might be labeled as “passive-aggressive Perpetrators.” I wrote a piece some time ago called, “The War At Home.” The message was partially about how just after the 9/11 attacks the media and politicians immediately pointed a finger to the Middle East, we quickly zipped in and began bombing the hell out of other countries, and countless people from around the world felt so justified in this.

These "countless people" are passive-aggressive Perpetrators. War could not have happened without them; it could not have continued for years and gone in all sorts of crazy, incoherently-explained, and insensible directions without them.

No, most people weren’t physically fighting the war, but the 9/11 attacks and the claimed causes surely resonated with people’s deeply-held Victim mentalities. People wanted blood, and blood is what they got. It would not be inaccurate to say that their collective focused energy (i.e.: approval of mass murder) did more damage than anything; perhaps the campfire had been lit, but only Victims (and psychopaths) would think to park a gasoline tanker over it.

To finalize… In this heavy dualistic existence where people choose to experience Victimhood, there is the requirement for Perpetrators to grind people down in myriad ways in order for the Victims to learn to stand up for themselves in the realization of their true inner power.

3. Savior

A Savior is someone who’d been Victimized in childhood and, feeling helpless and powerless, unconsciously believes that they can prove to themselves that they’re not actually a Victim by trying to help anyone they perceive to be helpless and powerless.

Saviors believe that their way is the “One Right Way.” They seek to push this agenda on others ostensibly to “save” or “help” them but in actuality in hopes of gaining their agreement (if begrudgingly) which offers “validation” of their “rightness.”

Because Saviors feel inherently powerless, pushing their beliefs and ways on others allows them, if the others comply, to feel powerful. Should potential Victims not comply, Saviors become dejected and angry and blame the hoped-for Victims for whatever self-justified reasons they can come up with.

The Savior mentality can be found within all areas of life. People may take on a diet or religion or political stance or just an arbitrary way of doing something, and because it works for them (or seems to work), they mistake that neither does their personal success (if only imagined) imply success for other, nor does their engrossment mean it’s the “One Right Way.” So infatuated with their own view, they blind themselves to what may be appropriate for or wanted by others, and see no problem dumping their “knowing” onto them.

Saviors are Perpetrators. By the karmic laws of life, it’s not cool to force someone toward something they don’t want: it’s interference. If a person doesn’t want to be “helped” or “saved,” the person who tries to do so becomes a Perpetrator.

Combinations

As you can see, each of the above three categories necessitate Victimization. What sets them apart is how any given Victim expresses his or her programming.

To be a Victim implies repressed hurt, and repressed hurt always wants out. A pure Victim cannot vent, however, so other paths must play accompaniment.

Considerations for Healing

If you’ve read this far and see what I’ve written of within yourself, then you have the opportunity for positive change. How much remains to be seen, but the simple fact that you can see it suggests that you’ve acknowledged that something’s not right. Hopefully you also have a willingness to change.

If so, this is a huge step toward healing. My feeling is that arrogance—a person’s sense that “I need to always be right”—is one of the greatest, if not the greatest, obstacles to the onset of healing. To be willing to set aside the powerful desire for “rightness” is of vital importance.

From here, regardless of where you find yourself within the above categories, you must go to the roots of the Victim mentality; you must work out your Victimization traumas and false beliefs.

Be aware that the Perpetrator and Savior aspects are primarily effects.

But don't misinterpret: Although effects, the Perpetrator and Savior behaviors can be very detrimental, so you’ll need to examine and release what you can with regard to these issues. Just know that your key is in healing any Victimization issues that cause the other behaviors to manifest in the first place.

Take special note of this, for this last statement points to one of the greatest truths across all of life. It’s one of life’s greatest “secrets”:

You must alter the cause in order to get a different effect.

Most people in this world think, speak, and act based on effects; based on what they see happening in their external world. The person who works a miserable job, for instance, complains that their job sucks, their coworkers are dopes, and they need to get out. But when they do get out, they wind up with a job not all too different from the one they’d left. They do this over and over again—ad nauseam and well beyond—because they don’t understand, or don't care to admit, that the cause of life is internal.

You can only be a Victim externally when you choose it internally, if unconsciously. As you remove the Victim programs from your consciousness, you will decrease both the likelihood of Perpetrators arising in your life and of you acting as a Perpetrator or Savior.

Closing Thoughts

I hope you’ve found this to be insightful and useful.

If I give ratings from 1 to 10 (with 10 being the maximum), I would estimate that I’ve personally experienced the issues of Victim at 9, Perpetrator at 3, and Savior at 6.

It’s been an awful ride and incredibly difficult to overcome. I’ve still not overcome all of it, but I’ve overcome it sufficiently enough, so I feel, both to write this post as though I know what I’m talking about, and to share with you that, lengthy though the process is, life becomes increasingly pleasant as the layers of such an all-encompassing and heavy burden are lifted.

Every day… Waking up motivationless to the same dreadful "grind." Worrying about what’s supposedly “right” and “wrong.” Trying to control what other people think, say, and do because I feel I can’t be happy unless they’re “doing it right.” Needing to hurt others, directly or indirectly, in order to feel “good.” Constantly complaining about everything and everyone, being lazy and disempowered, and taking the garbage everyone else dumps on me because I'm too self-deflating to stand up for myself. Burning so much time and life energy away on addictive behaviors. Harming myself, and thus perpetuating a variety of dis-eases, as a means of "proving" to myself and others that I really am the "poor-me of poor-mes" and so deserving of more love and attention and sympathy than others. And on and on and on and on.

What a lousy way to live. It’s not even living, really. But it’s not dying, either.

It just sucks.

Whether you, I, or another, it's vital that we find a way to cut the Victim distortion out of our consciousness.

What is the point of having life, after all, if not to live?

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If you’d like more information, check out the posts I’ve written under the Victim Mentality and Savior labels.

Thursday, September 20, 2018

Is Self-Help Right for You?

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness



Do you ever feel that your life could be better?

Do you ever feel that maybe there's something you need to do to make it better, but you can't quite place a finger on it?

Self-help could well be what you're looking for, though I understand if you've not known this or have chosen to keep at a distance. After all, the kind of self-help that actually offers lasting and positive change isn't exactly the rage of society.

Whatever the case, if you're coming at this fresh, I can empathize with any reluctance you may feel about getting started.

But that's why I've written this blog post: because I want to offer you some introductory thoughts about self-help as a general life tool that will help you to make an informed decision.

To begin, I suspect that...

Self-Help May Not Be What You Think It Is

I want you to know that to do self-help you don’t have to be a “self-help” kind of person. Nor do you have to be into the “New Age” agenda (plenty of which is crap). Don’t get caught up in labels.

Similarly, if you don’t have the draw to spirituality, enlightenment, self-realization, or whatever such names and paths that have commonly been associated with self-help, that’s perfectly understandable. A lot of people don’t.

But self-help, either literal self-help or working with a healer of some kind in order to resolve any number of life struggles, can be a useful, if not necessary, means toward fulfilling our natural human drive to be better today than yesterday—whatever this may mean for any given individual.

You don’t have to reach for anything particularly “big” or “special.” Maybe you'd like to tone down that voice in your head a little bit. Maybe you'd like to feel more purposeful. Maybe you’d like to be happier and healthier, or for your friends to treat you better, or for money to flow to you more readily.

Conscious healing is the path to all these things and more.

If You Want To Go Forward, Then Go Forward

For most people in the “developed” world, life carries with it a degree of unnecessary struggle—often a moderate-to-large one. For example, even for many people who have things aplenty, they still live in perceptual pain. Although they may be sufficiently above the poverty line, they still cry poverty.

In this instance, there is no poverty—and yet there is poverty. Because regardless of the contrary external situation of abundance, or at least enoughness, there exists a strong perception of lack within the mind. It’s thus not the world that’s responsible for lack but the perceiver thereof.

There is a saying: If you meet one jerk per day, such is reasonable. If you meet two jerks per day, such is cause for wonder. But if you meet three or more jerks per day, then you’d better take a look in the mirror.

In whatever areas of life that something or someone is being lousy (or whatever other less-than-positive value), nothing is truly going to change for the better because external life is only mirror of the inner.

Even when it looks like things are turning up, it’s often just an effect of the “grass is greener on the other side” mentality. So people go shifting their religions, jobs, cars, spouses, houses, and whatever else, but nothing truly brings satisfaction. There’s a lack and a yearning, but all they essentially do is move laterally, or backwards.

This occurs because the nature of life is an onward and upward evolution. When we remain stagnant internally—even though we may perceive ourselves as moving on and up externally—the seas of life become rougher and rougher until either we freely choose to change, or our suffering breaks us and forces an alteration of course… or as often happens, we get really unhappy and sick, jack ourselves up on all sorts of meds and addictions that heal nothing and bring about their own troubles, and then we die.

Doesn’t willingly changing even one small step at a time therefore seem like the obvious, sensible, least painful thing to do? Doesn’t it seem better than avoiding self-help work altogether, especially when we know we’re avoiding our problems as well as avoiding our avoidance, until (“It can’t happen to me.”) there’s some crisis that kick-starts it?

Possibly the Biggest Blockage of All

For all the hardships that people regularly experience at a personal level, I think the biggest initial obstacle that stands in the way of healing is self-righteousness.

I don’t mean this in the sense of the utter arrogance we may often think of self-righteousness as being. Rather, this is about peoples’ general need to be “right”; the need to believe self-protectively that “I already ‘know.’” Kind of like the Big Banks being “too big to fail,” only here it’s people whose egos persuade them to believe that “all is personally well” in order to avoid the fact that they’d do well to change.

You—whoever you are, because we all do it—must therefore be willing to take down your defenses. You’re a human being having the experience of a human being. This means you make mistakes, you carry internal pain, you learn falsities and call them “truth,” and so on. It doesn’t and can’t happen any other way.

You must come to terms with this form arrogance if you wish to truly improve your quality of life because this issue shrouds everything. If you can just say of any given thing, “I’m wrong,” and then ask, “Is there a wiser alternative?”—without making expectations as to how you will be answered—life will show you a better way.

Stepping beyond this obstacle, I think you'd find that general self-help really isn't that big of a deal.

Take It Easy

The majority of the time, taking it bit by bit isn’t that bad at all. (I regularly find the process of self-help to be enjoyable.)

Yes, sure, this processing can sometimes get intense if you near core issues and emotional blockages. But such is something that, in nearly every case, you will slowly work towards and thus be better prepared for if and when it arises.

Generally speaking, a basic self-help activity could be the following:

Every night before bed, write down:

How simple is that? How easy?

And unless, say, at some point you feel that to heal a past hurt you must apologize to someone's face, you don't have to tell anyone about any of this. Whatever you think or say or write or do in private can remain private. If you see a healer, then yes, there are things you'll have to speak openly about. But there is so much self-healing work that can be done without anyone ever knowing.

How much better might the quality of your life be after just one or two years of this?

It’s Your Call

If you want lasting, positive change, you must be the one to actively improve your life—from the inside out.

Consider this message as me reaching my hand out to you. If you're ready to begin but my methods aren’t to your liking, that’s fine: go look somewhere else. There are many approaches, many teachers, and many writers and speakers and whatevers and whoevers out there that can potentially provide services in ways that suit you better than mine.

Make your choice as you see fit. I make no judgment either way.

So why not give it a try? See what happens. I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.

Thursday, September 13, 2018

Moderation: An Approach that's Actually Reasonable

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness



I think that telling someone to “choose moderation” is pointless.

And what does “moderation” mean, anyway?

Immoderate Moderation

“Moderation” suggests a healthy balance, like a seesaw with a 150-pound man on each side and a fulcrum at the mid-way point.

Problem is, so far are most people from integrity with their own centers—i.e.: living their healthiest, thinking their clearest and most open-minded, etc.—that peoples’ views of “moderation” may more commonly be like a seesaw with a 250-pound man on one side, a 50-pound boy on the other, and a fulcrum that’s been shifted much closer to the boy than the man.

The more distorted peoples’ thoughts and behaviors are, the less it is within their ability to get an accurate picture of a circumstance: they cannot do this for themselves (though they may think they can), and they certainly cannot do this for others (though they may think they can).

Which leads us to a second problem: appearances. Whether a person is being "moderate" or not is commonly judged based on the subjective viewpoints of any number of outside viewers. But who are any of these viewers to say, for the most part, what is or is not "moderate" for any other person?

Self-Removal

An alcoholic, for example, could acknowledge that she is not being moderate in her alcohol consumption. Yet she could still ardently believe that two or four drinks per day, at least depending upon how they’re spaced, is “moderate.” Someone who’s overcome alcoholism may believe equally ardently that the answer is zero.

And what does any given culture, religion, or recently-published study say of alcohol consumption?

Surely, these lead to whole new layers of complexity. People end up arguing among each other, they seek to bend those of differing perspectives to their own beliefs, and they use their beliefs to self-righteously validate their own kind.

All the while, they may get so enmeshed in “what’s been divinely prescribed,” in the intellectualization of “what’s scientifically verified to be true,” and so on, while also probably being captives of peer pressure, that they’ve lost the facility of listening to what their very bodies, minds, and emotions are saying about the act and consequences of drinking.

It’s therefore a necessity that people step out of their current perspective in order to reevaluate and then validate or discard what they believe is “true.”

Beer and Cake… and Dis-ease

There was a time when I would have called drinking two beers per day “moderate.” I drank two beers every night with dinner, and I saw this as “okay” because I wasn’t getting drunk and the research said “two a day is okay.” I’d also “needed” these two to maintain a false idea I’d created for myself as to “who I am.”

Nowadays, I don’t call any amount of alcoholic drinking “moderate.” I’ve vastly expanded my mind, I’ve done deeper research, and I can “hear” my body much more loudly and clearly. In my current experience, I’m aware on multiple levels of alcohol’s toxicity. No, it may not be toxic like drinking cyanide-laced Kool-Aid, but it’s still toxic.

Similarly, back in the day I would have argued that it’s “moderate” to eat some junky food every day. Maybe after dinner, if not otherwise, have a fat piece of cake or a double- (or triple-) scoop of ice cream.

I now realize the folly in this. For one, I’d always (inadvertently) undereaten and never put on weight, so I didn’t think about calories. Two, I didn’t know of the damage these things were doing to my body, what my cravings actually meant about my body’s ever-malnourished state, or what my poor dietary habits would mean later on. And thirdly, unaware of how numb I was to life, I didn't realize that I'd used such harsh food and drink to, paradoxically, keep myself numb while helping me to feel something, anything.

Having gone through a 5+ year-long health nightmare and now eating lots of nutrient-dense and calorically-satisfying foods, I have no cravings, or even the desire, for any junk food whatsoever. Even most homemade baked goods are a complete turn-off.

Alcohol or junk food, I now see that I'd never consumed either in "moderation," yet I don't call the absence of either in my diet as "moderate." Maybe I could simply say that they're irrelevant. To me, perhaps to the exclusion of minimally-consumed snacks made from high-quality ingredients, it seems that to consume such food and drink would sort of be like saying, "I've moderated disease into my diet." That's insensible.

So, Then… What Is “Moderation”?

Having stepped out of my old perspective, I now see how poorly I would have defined “moderation” in the past as well as the lousy conditions under which that definition would have been created.

I can’t say, however, that I label my new way of seeing things as “moderate.”

I mean, I don’t really think of it as anything at all other than improved, personally healthier perspectives and choices after doing lots of self-healing, research, and so on.

I rarely even use the word “moderation” except in a case such as this article. If someone would ask me for help, I don’t think I’d ever tell them to “choose moderation.”

Yes, there are usually healthier ways to do things, but “healthier” doesn’t readily equate to “more moderate” because everyone’s experience, perspectives, needs, and so on are highly subjective.

The 20 bananas that one fruitarian could eat in a given day may work great for that particular person. But maybe for a wannabe fruitarian, 20 bananas per day causes problems.

In either case, who am I to say to either one, “Choose moderation”? The former is doing what works, extreme though it may seem, and for the latter, what is “moderation”? Is it 10 bananas and potato soup? Is it steak and salad and coconut oil?

I have no idea.

I can’t even say “moderation” could at least partially be defined by “leaving out the garbage” because this takes us back to what we discussed earlier. What and how much is “garbage,” and by who’s perspective?

Okay, yes, perhaps by all accounts except for the most brainwashed, extremes such as addiction could potentially be seen even by the very participants of these extremes as being “immoderate.” But so what? I’m hard-pressed to see any functional value in merely telling an extremist, “Choose moderation.”

Otherwise, it seems to me that perhaps, as many people use it, the very concept of “moderation” is, itself, garbage.

Which leads me to think that people need to listen to and feel what’s really going on with their own bodies, minds, emotions, and overall experiences, while ceasing to look for some external, cover-all means of defining what is supposedly “right” or “wrong,” “good” or “bad.”

From this, they can then make the higher, wiser choices that suit them best for attaining health and happiness. They can also more readily shift their concept of “moderation” because it will be based on their own self-conscious awareness and experience rather than external opinions.

This would mean that “moderation” is not about a cause as it seems we commonly think of it but about an effect. This is to say, it doesn’t matter what we do so much as it matters how our bodies respond, how we’re able to manage our thoughts, how our emotions flow, how our spirituality evolves, how our experiences unfold, as a consequence of what we do.

If we as individuals are doing what works best for each of us, we must necessarily experience holistic balance.

It doesn’t then matter what we’re eating or how we’re exercising or what our work is in relation to other people or the latest scientific research. What matters is that, barring unexpected and adverse circumstances, we’re able to be consistently healthy, alert, motivated, and so on as a positive consequence of both the individual and the totality of our choices.

For any given person, “moderation” may then be like the seesaw with a 250-pound man and a 50-pound boy, only the fulcrum is located much closer to the man instead of the boy. So although this could appear “immoderate,” with one side having quite a large arc and minimal weight and the other having a comparatively small arc and maximum weight, balance is still maintained overall.

We might therefore conclude that: “Moderation” is the effect of balance resultant of the individual and collective, internal and external factors and choices of any given person wherein this person’s true needs are being satisfied; appearance-based judgments of other subjective viewers notwithstanding.

Wednesday, September 5, 2018

Innocent Victims: An Index of “Childhood Trauma – Series” Posts

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness



When a parent or any “authority” figure hurts a child by way of deliberate threat, punishment, “child-rearing,” abuse, neglect, etc. “in the name of love,” this is not love.

It is, you may be quite surprised and shocked to know, a very selfish behavior intent on the protection of one’s egoic self-interests.

This negative behavior is a means of evading the questioning of one’s self- and societally-bestowed “godly”/“authoritative”/“ideal” status, as well as an avoidance of one’s childhood programming (traumas, fears, and false beliefs) that causes old, repressed, personal hurts to be taken out on innocent beings who inadvertently externally reflect those hurts in the present.

Likewise, this maltreatment of helpless, powerless beings allows the perpetrators to maintain the undue respect they carry for their own parents and other “authority” figures: If such people can justify in their own adult lives why it’s acceptable to hurt children, often their own, then they can maintain their justification as to why their parents are not to be held accountable for hurting them as children.

And so it carries on.

Where appearances present an adult hurting a child, the reality is that a child is hurting a child. The adult driving the hurt is behaving as such because, although he or she has matured in body, their psycho-emotional state is still that of a traumatized child.

It is vital for people to understand that children do not arrive inherently damaged; children do not arrive inherently resentful, mannerless, lazy, misbehaving, foul-mouthed, and unkind.

Children become damaged, children become resentful, mannerless, lazy, misbehaving, foul-mouthed, and unkind by the very people who make them that way.

And the only way the cycle stops is by people taking responsibility for and conscious control of their thoughts, actions, and emotions—now.

Yes, sure, people can amble carelessly through life and let the higher energies of those who actually do the hard healing work, right now, to permeate into the collective consciousness and then, slowly, a generation or two later, manifest milder conditions for our kids and grandkids.

But this is the pathetic way out. I therefore hope that people will choose the wiser path.

The future of everyone on this planet depends upon it.

For those who come to experience this future, let us who're here now have something worthwhile to show for our time here.

Index of Childhood Trauma Series Posts

Childhood Trauma: Threats, Abuse, and Punishment

Childhood Trauma: Failure

Childhood Trauma: Fetal Development and Birth

Childhood Trauma: Name-Calling

Childhood Trauma: Invisibility

Childhood Trauma: Invisibility – Part 2

Childhood Trauma: "Catholic Guilt"

Childhood Trauma: Abandonment