Sunday, April 7, 2019

Pain: Sign Language from Life Itself

by John Boodhansingh of Zero Mindfulness

Have you ever been in pain?

Has your life ever been a pain?

Yes and yes, I’m sure.

And why do you suppose this pain has existed?

  • ...your pain is penance for your inherent sinfulness?
  • ...pain is what you get for being stupid?
  • ...pain is simply a part of life?
  • ...there aren’t enough OSHA regulations to keep us safe?
  • ...we don’t pay enough tax money to create effective enough government programs that would bring about greater well-being?

These may all be true in their own way, so take your pick, if any seem particularly resonant with you. For regardless, you’re going to perceive your experiences of pain as the results of whatever reasons you believe their causes to be.

If you have any wish, though, to consider that one of the most frequent causes of pain is entirely different than anything you’ve probably ever been told, then read on.

Providing Value

Still here?

Great. I guess that means I now have to provide you with something of value.

Here it is. Here is the truth about pain that makes all other causes of pain nearly irrelevant:

Pain is an indicator of what not to do.

Whoa! Captain Obvious at the helm!

Surely, there’s must be something more, something of value, right?

Hmmm. Well, that’s quite valuable, but if you insist on something further…

Rules of Engagement

Here are 3 very important details about life:
  1. Life is inherently positively-oriented, wants the best for you, and helps you to experience the best.
  2. You create your life experience using a combination of conscious thinking and subconscious programming.
  3. Life cannot directly interfere with your choices.
Item number 1 is very, very hard to see if you believe, for example, that pain is penance for your inherent sinfulness, because of too few OSHA regulations, and other such things.

Your sight of the truth will be nil because all of these lines of thinking imply either that you’re a worthless sack of crap or that life is inherently dangerous and you must protect, protect, protect if you want to be safe. In other words, all you will see are your own false beliefs and fears, and neither are positively-oriented.

As for item number 2, if you’re conscious thoughts are negatively-based, it means your subconscious programming is negatively-based. (You wouldn’t perceive falsely or jump to fear unless prior programming were telling you to do so.) You are thus going to continually create a life experience in which what you see “proves” your false beliefs and is a trigger for your fears.

Mind you, this will be your experience. And it is one that is purely perceptual.

Consider: It is not unsafe to drive without a seatbelt. Many, many people perceive that it is, but it is not. Because the fact of the matter is, unless someone is in a car accident or driving so wildly that they can’t stay seated, driving without a seatbelt is 100% harmless. (Even in untoward circumstances, being in a seatbelt has not always guaranteed the least harmful outcome.)

So while one person may ride without a seatbelt in total panic and fear for their life, another may be in a state of complete calm. The experience each has, no matter how seemingly real, is about what’s inside.

In terms of item number 3, you’re choosing what is false and negative, consciously and subconsciously, and Life is not allowed to directly wake you from your slumber. You may not like what you’re dreaming, no, you may hate it passionately. But it is of your choosing, and as long as you chose it the better part of Life will remain in abeyance, unable to show you item number 1, that it really does have your best interest in mind.

Luckily for all those who cannot be shown what’s up directly, Life is allowed to show them what’s up indirectly.

The questions then become: Who has eyes to see? Who has ears to hear?

Success and Failure

People are so willing to acknowledge their successes.
“Ahhh. Would you look at this? I’ve done some nice work.”

“Finally, I have a college degree. Now I’m a worthwhile human being.”
But their perspective very much changes when they fail or when ends don’t meet.
“Dammit! It broke again! They make shit so cheap these days.”

“Why the hell did she tell me to meet her here if she wasn’t even going to show up?”
So, too, do people often get miserable when situations aren’t about success or failure, per se, but, in a different way of saying it, whether or not life is easeful or painful.
“Oh, I did it again. I am such a freakin’ idiot.”

“For cryin’ out loud! This is the third time today that I banged my elbow! This house is too damn small.”
Do you see what I see? Do you see how when “the good” occurs people are willing to claim themselves as the creators of those experiences, but when “the bad” occurs people want to either place the creation of that pain on someone or something else or blame themselves merely as incompetent?

When was the last time you heard someone say,
“Ouch! I bit my tongue! But maybe my Higher Self is using my body to guide me to avoid speaking the angry thoughts I’ve been thinking about saying to the neighbor.”

“Oh, hell, the rearview mirror just fell off the windshield when I tried to adjust it. Maybe Life is telling me I need to take more time to look into my repressed past in order to heal the cause of the problems I’ve been having lately.”

Pain’s Value

What I’m saying here may seem ridiculous to you, but I can assure you it is not fictional.

Read that one again about the bitten tongue. The next time you bite your tongue, ask yourself what you were thinking either when it happened or just prior. Most likely, you were not thinking, Ahhh. I’m so happy and in love with life; more likely, The next time I see him I’m going to give him a piece of my mind!

Maybe you won’t get it the first time, but if you put in a little effort, I’m sure you’ll see that I’m not making this stuff up.

And be sure to use the wittiness of Life to your benefit.

We commonly use the saying, “Bite your tongue,” when telling another not to say the negative thing they want to. Life, your Higher Self, God, or whatever you want to call The One Who Makes It Happen is neither stupid nor some aloof entity that doesn’t know anything about you. It knows everything and will spontaneously manifest experiences for you, through you, using metaphors, to tell you almost exactly what is up. Again, It can’t tell you directly, but if you’re thinking, I’m going to curse him out, and then you bite your tongue, the message really can’t get much more obvious.

Or consider this next example. You'll notice the connection isn't as obvious as the previous one, but, as a signal of warning, it's not that far from:

You’re going the wrong way. Maybe you’re consistently eating poorly and developing an illness, maybe you’re working on a project that isn’t aligned with your better judgment, or maybe whatever. The point is that what you’re doing is not in your best interest and you would do well to reverse course before the accumulation of your thoughts, words, and/or actions reaches a critical mass, a negative “event” results, and not only has your effort failed but you’ve been set back severely.

During the development period, were you aware enough, you might notice that you hear an increase in car horns and alarms, even insofar as the frequency of your hearing them is in proportion to the rate with which you move along. Or maybe you’re trying to design your own website and since beginning your computer has repeatedly been flashing virus warnings.

Unaware, you might think that horns beep and alarms woop excessively because people are crazy or that virus warnings keep arising because your computer is a dumb piece of garbage. While there might be some truth to such thoughts, the greater truth could well be that Life is trying to warn you that, should you continue on your current path, you will end up in significant pain.

And if you’re already in pain?

Nothing changes. Ask about it. Figure it out, whatever “it” may be.
  • “Why are my teeth so sensitive?”
  • “Why does everyone blame me for their woes?”
  • “Why do I have so much trouble with money?”
  • “Why did I fall off my bike today?”
Whatever your pain is—physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, circumstantial—it’s not an accident. (Not even car accidents are accidents.) Your pain is a reflective guidepost waiting for you to “read” so that you can heal old, internal wounds and realign yourself with who and what you truly are.

Pain’s Other Uncommon Purpose

In saying all this, I would like to make a distinction.

When we do things in life that are worthwhile, it’s not uncommon that we manifest crappy (and sometimes obscenely crappy) experiences in attempt to block ourselves from success to “prove” our ego’s perception of unworthiness. Yet they are these very obstacles we must overcome in order to move forward.

There is a difference, then, between manifesting hardship when burning out old egoic programming and hardship manifesting as Life’s way of saying, “No!”

An example of manifesting hardship could be going out to live your dreams and then having several major incidents arise that seemingly deny you access. These incidents are more or less of a right-of-passage that allow you to quickly overcome limiting aspects of your ego so your endeavor can be successful.

You may or may not need to ask why these things are happening in order to move beyond them. (Although, personally, I would ask since I ask the cause about everything that pains me.) Assuming you don’t reject the experiences and go into a depression and give up on life, your very passage through is the overcoming.

I note these egoic events as “manifesting hardship” because they come about due to lower, humanly, self-causation. Although you don’t do it consciously, you (egoically-identified) are manifesting your hardship.

On the other hand, an example of hardship manifesting (note the word reversal) might be you desiring to sell your car (imagining the public bus will serve just fine) but then a tire goes flat, the windshield cracks, and the E-brake light in the dashboard won’t turn off (“STOP!!!”).

I note these as “hardship manifesting” because they are provided by a higher, spiritual power. These are not caused consciously but superconsciously. Although uncomfortable, pain—and, moreover, it’s oft-consequent suffering—is the best tool Life has for waking us from asleep.

Be aware that in giving these two types and examples of hardship I’m not attempting to offer any definitive line by which to define one type of hardship versus the other.

It’s always possible, for instance, that someone could believe they’re going to work their dream job, experience a few setbacks, and, lacking self-inquiry, also believe that the setbacks are their right-of-passage. The truth could be that the setbacks are actually Life attempting to block their passage because their “dream job” is founded on a desperate need for parental approval.

The development of intuition and the practice of regular self-inquiry are therefore most useful tools. Opening to the guidance Life provides is one thing, but being clear as to what the signs mean is another, and both require inner-clarity.

Hardship Is a Circumstance; Pain Is a Perspective.

The suggested causes of pain that I'd offered at the start (i.e.: pain is penance, etc.) are quite relative. Were a believer to remove those beliefs and any associated guilt, unworthiness, etc., they'd see that there'd simply been nothing to their seeming reality but external life reflecting their internal state. Their whole experience would change because they had changed.

Other situations may lean more toward an “absolute.” For example, suppose a child is born with a birth defect that causes great hardship. The cause may be something such as past-life karma or the desire of a soul for that experience. Although these sorts of circumstances don't fit with the examples given at the start, the fact remains that there is something to be learned by all who're involved through the pain. Unlike the relative, belief-related pains, although the hardship may never subside, the pain and suffering can subside when the perspective about the pain is altered for the positive.


You might now see the tragedy of our world culture in seeking every means imaginable (and unimaginable) to allay our pains by external, artificial means: our pains are the very things that, given adequate attention, will allow us to heal their causes and thus reduce and often even end them forever.

So, what do say? Do you want to carry on as you've been, or are you willing to at least give this a try, to take a deeper look into what your pain may really be about?

What have you got to lose, anyway, but pain—and a falsely-identified ego that takes pleasure in it?

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